LivenLife Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 I was just wondering, how do people in an affair communicate with out the spouse knowing? Do you send emails to his/her work emails, do you IM each other, how do you do it? Please tell me your ways.....
erika2610 Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 I was just wondering, how do people in an affair communicate with out the spouse knowing? Do you send emails to his/her work emails, do you IM each other, how do you do it? Please tell me your ways..... Well, I worked with my ex-MM.. so it was easy most of the time When we weren't working, we'd text each other. Not a good idea.. especially when they accidentally leave their phones at home..
scarletletter Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 We mostly contact each other during work hours by phone or email. He calls me every day on his way home too. Just for safety, we don't call after 5pm just in case. I try not to call him too much. I have much more freedom that he does, so I wait for him to contact me most of the time. I call him at work occasionally but try not to call his cell unless he tells me to. We talk forever on the phone when we cannot see each other. I have never called him at home and he has never called me at home. I doubt that we ever will, its just too dangerous.
Sami_D Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 Why are you asking this question? Are you the same poster who has been asking lots of questions about how OW carry on affairs and if they really end them when they say they will..? If you're looking for ways to catch out your WS there are some sites I can send you to. Or you could ask these questions in the Infidelity section on this site. But, to answer the question. He has a work mobile phone, and his wife doesn't use the computer. And if she has any suspicion he's having an affair she's giving no sign of it. So there's no real reason for us to hide anything.
mopar crazy Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 I'm w/ Sami on this one. Are you asking b/c your the OW/OM (or want to be) and you want advice from OW/OM to hide your A w/ a MP or are you a BS? If your a BS the infedility side is a great help. To answer your ? I'm not a OW but a BW. My H and exOW worked together so it was easy for them to communicate. They would also PM eachother from their office. He would call her on his cell and she would call him. This is how I found out about their A. Even though she had an unlisted phone # I knew it was her (b/c of the location, I knew where she lived. She lives in a very small town, less than 500 ppl) They didn't hide their A very well and H was pretty stupid for thinking I wouldn't question him about calls made to her when I seen the cell bill.
kpin124 Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 well we mostly communicate during work hours now by txt msging and talking on the cell phone.... we use to email all the time but have gotten away from that because it is to risky....
Sami_D Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 Just want to say that if you're an OW who has given a lot out about yourself and the BS is in search of information, if you give out how you contact him ... the BS might well find enough information on you to bust her MM. Just a thought.
scarletletter Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 Good point sami...I never thought of that. If the BS wants to find out I'm sure there are many ways for her/him to do so. If she/he has reason to suspect then she will find a way to catch him/her. It seems that most of us contact our mm by cell phone, at work, or by computer. If I were a BS or a suspicious one, I'm hoping that I would have enough sense to figure that out for myself. Technology is a scary thing!!
curly Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 Seems like these posts come from a BS, wondering how to catch her H in an Affair. There's no reason to hide, just out with it, already..... My MM (oops xMM) & I communicated constantly. We spoke for hours during the day on land lines through work. We used to work in the same company, but when I left, that's when it started. I worked about 15 blocks away so the calls were local. Still, those calls were on company lines, no access to W. We also spoke for hours on his cell, which was paid by the company, still no access to W. He called me at all hours... after she went to sleep, when she was not in the room... he called me all the time. H has also called (not much) on his own land line that he shares with the W. Maybe he wanted to get caught but she just doesn't care... (Maybe, who knows?) But the point is.... in the end.... when there's a will, there's a way..... When anyone...man, woman.. wife.. husband.. wants to speak to someone else, they will find a way to not get caught. My exMM & I spent every weekend 100 yds apart from each other last summer - we were both with someone else.. he with the W, me with a SO. We still found a way to "speak" with each other. We left messages on each other's vmail at work and would each check that often. Neither of the SO's knew anything. When there's a will, there's a way. Unfortunately, (& I'm not proud of it) as the one who's not in the know... you'll never figure out how they contact each other. There's the rub... Once betrayed... you'll never know if they are continuing to betray you. I'm not trying to be an enraged OW. I just fear for myself in the future. I'm not sure I can ever trust a man again. They are such dogs..... My xMM was married for 30+ years. You just never know when the dog will come out and bite you on the ass.
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