Hurtagain? Posted February 23, 2006 Posted February 23, 2006 Hubby promised no contact with his woman "friend". He also promised me he took her out of his phone. I logged onto MSN messenger on the computer and I found her screen name in his list! I found it on his phone a couple of weeks ago, and he said he forgot it was there, since he didnt use MSN messenger too much. So, now I find her text name (and secret) email from hotmail. If I confront him I know he will say he forgot again. Any advice? He told me he only emailed her at her work email, this is not a work email address.
greenshift Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 He's lying. You KNOW he's lying. Don't let him blow you off with lame excuses. Here's the thing: when you go through something as traumatic as an affair, you DON'T forget things like that. Once, maybe - twice? No frickin' way. It's just not possible. People don't work that way. Confront him. Are you in counselling? Be strong. Don't be mean, but be strong. I can't believe that your relationship will work if you let this slide. It's been about 9 months since my ex told me she had an affair, four since the divorce, and I'm still finding evidence, without even looking, that the affair went on for well over a year before she told me about it. I let her walk all over me after that which, I think, was what killed our marriage and prevented us from finding the real problem, and she continued contact with the guy even after professing her undying love for me and choosing me in a "it's him or me" engagement. You deserve the truth. It's up to him to be on his best behavior right now - what you're seeing is not his best.
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