jennifer1983 Posted February 23, 2006 Posted February 23, 2006 Well I just found out some interesting news...my ex and I broke up less than two weeks ago, three days after he had proposed to me....I found out that he has another girl living with him already...I found out from his sister...she said that they met last week which was only a few days after we broke up, and that she stays at his house at night and her moms during the day....I feel like my legs are so shaky if I stand up I will fall...How could someone do me like this? I was doing so well not talking to him then I find this out and it feels like a knife is going back and forth in my gut.... I know she is probably just a rebound but it still hurts....How could he go to living with another girl right after he proposed to me?
MassiveAtom Posted February 26, 2006 Posted February 26, 2006 and lots of it. Jennifer, Hi. I'm so sorry to hear that you've been disappointed by love. and in such a crass and discompassionate manner. Big reassuring hugs to you in those wee hours. I know sometimes it doesn't seem like anyone cares anymore, but we do. We REALLY do. And we want you to go through this process however you need to. Because in some way shape or form, we've all "been done wrong" and we know how it feels. One thing that always helped me up during the darker years of my life was the understanding that whatever someone says or does, says infinitely more about them, than it does about you. People do things not because of you, or to you as in "how could he do me like that" but because of themselves. EVEN when they are unaware of it. So he took up with this other woman quickly and desperately. That means he's telling you he acts quickly out of desperation or he's lying about the details. Do you really think you'd want to be legally bound to this guy? really? I know reading this doesn't help a whole lot, but maybe knowing that His actions say nothing about your desirabily or attractiveness as a woman, but infinately more about his inability to confront his own issues with truth, will. pm me anytime be well, take care MA
Curmudgeon Posted February 26, 2006 Posted February 26, 2006 How could someone do me like this? This isn't something he's done to you. It's something he's done to himself and the other girl. Not only is he on the rebound but he's weak. He can't stand the thought of being alone. You've escaped being stuck with a very shallow person.
CherieBomb Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 Start to take REALLY good care of yourself. Spoil yourself even... He wasn't worth it...just reading your words and what he did...nope... you deserve better. Give yourself a chance to heal from this and I mean it...be really good to yourself...your well being does not require another person to flourish. think about it a little bit...you'll be OK and eventually he'll do the same thing to her.... what goes around comes around....
Butterflying Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 Unless he's a total jerk, this girl isn't someone he just met. Sounds like the sister might be covering things up a little. Maybe she doesn't want you to feel too bad. Or maybe she's trying to make her brother look, not so bad. Anyway, this is going to take some time. Right now, you're probably asking all the why questions. You're wondering if the other girl has something you don't. You're putting this man on a pedal stool as though he is the best thing on earth. This is a stage in the healing process. Nothing and no one can make you feel better right now. I just want you to know that you're not alone. I've been through this before. It's been several years since my last break up and I still cry about it sometime. Try not to internalize the pain you're in right now. Vent as much as possible. Accept all your feelings no matter how silly they may seem. Just know that you will get through this.
UT_longhorn Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 what a complete jerk off. most likely she was in the picture before he left. he's a coward and you deserve so much more. i know it may seem impossible to think of it this was, it is a blessing in disguise. he won't be able to F your life any more...while he proceeds to F th elife of this new girl. unbelievable that there are so many complete chicken sh*ts out there. im angry for you jennifer.
Guest Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 Dear Jennifer1983, I know how it feels. My EX came back from Calgary because she was visiting family. I was ready to propose to her and she told me she had sex with my best friend and she didnt know how many times. Im still looking for that special someone. So you are in the same boat as me. *hugs* James
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