Bashful Posted February 23, 2006 Posted February 23, 2006 My husband has taken naked pictures of me on his cell phone. I dont mind at all, I would rather him look at me than porn. Anyway, we were joking around one night and he told me he showed two of his friends my pictures. OMG! I asked him why and he said because he is proud of me. Now, I dont know what to think! I am mad becuause those pictures were ment for him, but since he said he was proud of me its hard to get that mad at him. It also makes me feel good because he said his friends think I am hot. But, now I am worried that all they will do is think of me naked everytime they see me! I am so confused on how to feel.
tweldy Posted February 23, 2006 Posted February 23, 2006 It sounds like your husband does not understand your need for privacy. Note that wanting nude pictures of yourself to be private between you and your husband is very normal and **no one** should assume otherwise unless you've explicitly stated so. You have every right to be upset with him not matter why he's showing them to other people. I think people could discern your beauty with a rather modest picture. This sounds like a symptom of a different problem where you husband doesn't fully get the idea that you are a person with rights and co-equal with him. He needs to check with you and spend more time understanding how you want to be treated. I'm guessing your both pretty young and have a really fun and physical time together; this is good, but some high quality communication wouldn't hurt. From what I've read, I'm guessing your husband is probably a good guy deep down, just a little too inclined to think with the wrong part of his body. The good news is that men outgrow this tendency. The bad news is that in the process, sometimes they do some *astonishingly* stupid things.
JadeStar Posted February 23, 2006 Posted February 23, 2006 You could chalk it up as your husband being honest about the fact he finds you attractive or proud of how you look, but the bottom line is its no one elses business. I'm assuming he wanted to show you off to his friends so maybe they could see what they were missing? Big deal, who cares, you are his wife no one elses. I do think he is being disrespectful on the matter, and you really need to talk with him about him showing your pics to others, and how they were meant for his eyes only. I had a friend in a similar situation a few years ago. Her husband took nude pics of her for his desk top on their home computer, later on she found out her husband had submitted those pics without her knowledge to a porn site about rate my wife. Her pics were on there with a bunch of other pics and they were being rated by men. She was furious, and rightfully so. Some people pass it off as being proud of their wife's looks and some may pass it off as pure disrepect and degrading to have other men look at them. So its best to communicate to him how you feel on the matter. Jade
catgirl1927 Posted February 23, 2006 Posted February 23, 2006 This was a VERY disrespectful thing for him to do. This is exactly why there are not nor will there ever be naked pictures of me. (That and I don't really photograph well... ) But seriously, this was a SERIOUS misuse of your trust and you need to make sure that he knows it. Also, delete the pictures from his cell phone immediately. What a jerk. "I'm proud of you" does not make up for "I don't think of you as a person but as a thing that I own and can share with my friends at my pleasure."
Mz. Pixie Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 Yup, this is why there will never be naked pictures of me anywhere. When I divorced I sure was glad none existed because I'm sure that would have been another thing for me to have to worry about.
carmaenforcer Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 My Wife let me keep a few pictures of her on my cell phone too. But although I am extremely proud of my Wife's looks, she is one of the most beautiful and sexy women I have ever known, I would never show her off to my friends or co-workers. It's different if I was bragging on some web site, but even then I would not use real names or show her face.
TUDOR Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 My husband has taken naked pictures of me on his cell phone. I dont mind at all, I would rather him look at me than porn. Anyway, we were joking around one night and he told me he showed two of his friends my pictures. OMG! I asked him why and he said because he is proud of me. Now, I dont know what to think! I am mad becuause those pictures were ment for him, but since he said he was proud of me its hard to get that mad at him. It also makes me feel good because he said his friends think I am hot. But, now I am worried that all they will do is think of me naked everytime they see me! I am so confused on how to feel. First off, how fun are yall!! Secondly, your husband's friend's already think of you naked even before they looked at the photos. Men think of all women naked, with the exception of those that we would rather not.
933KJL Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 Tudor is right. But he probably ought to not have them on the cell phone. I mean how easy is it to lose a cell phone? A home PC is one thing, but I have friends borrow mine all the time and I am sure if they don't know al the buttons they could find the photos. Actually, maybe you can post the photos up here and Tudor and I can really evaluate and let you know if you should be upset or not!
TUDOR Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 Actually, maybe you can post the photos up here and Tudor and I can really evaluate and let you know if you should be upset or not! I totally concur!
tweldy Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 Do either of you have significant others? If so, are they aware that you both need spankings?
TUDOR Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 Do either of you have significant others? If so, are they aware that you both need spankings? My wife would totally agree with you but due to her hand being sore as it were, she is looking for a stand in....any volunteers?
933KJL Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 Outta my way Tudor, I want to be first in that line!!
cal gal Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 My wife would totally agree with you but due to her hand being sore as it were, she is looking for a stand in....any volunteers? Hmmmmmm
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