beebee19 Posted February 23, 2006 Posted February 23, 2006 If your MW MM told they couldnt see you anymore because their spuose found out, you think it would be over? Do you think the phone calls and meetings would end just like that? No contact, ever?
kpin124 Posted February 23, 2006 Posted February 23, 2006 no actually i don't think it would be over just like that..... i think it would cool down for a while but i am pretty sure we would still txt and eventually we would meet again...... me and my mm have went several months before and not spoken due to us both being busy with our lives but somehow we always find our way back to each other......
Aaurora_26 Posted February 23, 2006 Posted February 23, 2006 I am going through the NC period at the moment because his GF found out....It's pretty rough, but I am coping. I would be happy not to resume the relationship, but to just be able to talk to him again like we used to. I think kpin124 is right, in most cases it would start back up again especially if the attraction is strong.
My_Other_I Posted February 23, 2006 Posted February 23, 2006 no actually i don't think it would be over just like that..... i think it would cool down for a while but i am pretty sure we would still txt and eventually we would meet again...... me and my mm have went several months before and not spoken due to us both being busy with our lives but somehow we always find our way back to each other...... Same here:mad: The only way to end an A (where emotions were/are involved) is to never speak again. Ever.
Hurtingtoo Posted February 23, 2006 Posted February 23, 2006 I am currently in the NC stage and I do believe it sucks- I want to contact him, I finally ended the relationship a month after my affair was discovered because I was not ready to let go.....then a few days ago the OM contacted me..and now the withdrawl started all over again. I am a firm believer in absolutley NO CONTACT if you want to rediscover your love for your spouse etc. Withdraw mode does suck and it is supposed to be something that does pass.
Lightglowabove Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 If your MW MM told they couldnt see you anymore because their spuose found out, you think it would be over? Do you think the phone calls and meetings would end just like that? No contact, ever? After my MM's wife found out, I didn't want to talk to him at all. He turned out to be a liar to me, plain and simple throughout our relationship, and I decided I didn't want to be part of it anymore. It's been 5 months and I'm finally free and happy! Be strong.
lovernotafighter Posted February 26, 2006 Posted February 26, 2006 I posted this in another thread..but for me,no, no NC does not work out it just makes things worse. his wife did catch him on msn and we had to stop that...he was banished off the comp and that did stop him from finding other ways to contact me...even when we said we wouldn't,we did. he still writes me everyday. the longest NC we had was 3 weeks...but it wasn't complete because we still wrote a few times and had a few phone calls which for us was insanly hard.
Aaurora_26 Posted February 26, 2006 Posted February 26, 2006 I posted this in another thread..but for me,no, no NC does not work out it just makes things worse. his wife did catch him on msn and we had to stop that...he was banished off the comp and that did stop him from finding other ways to contact me...even when we said we wouldn't,we did. he still writes me everyday. the longest NC we had was 3 weeks...but it wasn't complete because we still wrote a few times and had a few phone calls which for us was insanly hard. Hi Matrix, I am interested in your story - I am currently going through NC with my MM and it is very hard. I am surprised (and a little hopeful) to hear that your NC didn't last and I am hoping that my NC won't last for too long either. I have been in NC for a month now. How did it end up going back to normal for you? Does it make it harder in the end to break the NC and to start it up again only to go through NC again? Do you wish that you didn't break NC so you wouldn't have to go through this pain time after time? In a way, I want to keep doing NC until we both get so far over it we won't be going back but I miss him so much that I need to see/talk to him. How do you get through your NC? Aaurora x
lovernotafighter Posted February 26, 2006 Posted February 26, 2006 Hi Matrix, I am interested in your story - I am currently going through NC with my MM and it is very hard. I am surprised (and a little hopeful) to hear that your NC didn't last and I am hoping that my NC won't last for too long either. I have been in NC for a month now. How did it end up going back to normal for you? Does it make it harder in the end to break the NC and to start it up again only to go through NC again? Do you wish that you didn't break NC so you wouldn't have to go through this pain time after time? In a way, I want to keep doing NC until we both get so far over it we won't be going back but I miss him so much that I need to see/talk to him. How do you get through your NC? Aaurora xhello Aaurora we had two serious NC's the first was spawned by him were he said he couldn't do it any more and he didn't know if we could be friends..I was crushed but excepted it...he wrote me a few times during the next couple weeks to just say 'hi' and I wouldn't respond...I had my demons to sort out...so then he came and threw himself on my mercy and sent me a dozen apologies...things weren't normal for a good month because I expected the other shoe to drop. so the second NC was just 3 weeks ago...this was the same but reversed..this time it was me..I told him we couldn't be friends and to leave me alone...then the same thing..I went to him last week and told him my life was better with him in it...we went to lunch mid-week and had a long talk...he's recovering way better than me from this one...he seems elated but me I still feel dread over what will happen next...who's gonna flip out,who's gonna turn on the other one.whos heart is gonna end up in shreds so going threw NC destroyed me and I ended up going and getting antidepressants...I told him yesterday to think of the same before he loses it...we work together (on different shifts) he didn't have to tell me of his suffering because it was obvious in his job..he was screwing up everyday during our last NC (he's in charge of his shift) that I heard about his mess ups everyday and I knew why and that also made me feel horrid. I don't for see either of us making NC again unless we are totally sure thats what we want...neither of could take it before and feel foolish and embarrassed for doing it at all. I wish you the best of luck with your NC though...I am convinced it's the only way to get over a affair...and I know it's extremely painful and hard. I hope the best for you.
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