bebegal Posted February 23, 2006 Posted February 23, 2006 Besides being gay.... what are some reasons as to why a man would prolong having sex with his girlfriend of 6 months
Jools Posted February 23, 2006 Posted February 23, 2006 Not sure if i understand the question correctley? Are you asking why after 6 months of seeing him, would he still not be sleeping with you yet?
amerikajin Posted February 23, 2006 Posted February 23, 2006 a) He's gay (self-explanatory) b) He's asexual (i.e. no libido) c) He's got issues with intimacy - physical (i.e. impotence) or pyschological (severe anxiety) d) He's just not that into you sexually (since you've never done it, it's doubtful that this is the real reason, but it's possible) My guess is, it's either a or c
Rickymoemoe Posted February 23, 2006 Posted February 23, 2006 Well if that is what she is asking Jools. Maybe he respects you and doesn't believe in sex before marriage! My Lord does no one follow the teachings of God anymore!
amerikajin Posted February 23, 2006 Posted February 23, 2006 Ordinarily I wouldn't discount that religion could conceivably come into play, but I'm assuming that religious beliefs would have been covered by now...
Walk Posted February 23, 2006 Posted February 23, 2006 I'm assuming that religious beliefs would have been covered by now...No doubt. If he felt so strongly about religion to for-go sex until marriage, you would think he'd mention something about it at some point... Not wait until after marriage to say, "Oh, I'm X religion and didn't believe in sex before marriage." Another question. Haven't you asked him why? And what did he say?
NTB Posted February 23, 2006 Posted February 23, 2006 Besides being gay.... what are some reasons as to why a man would prolong having sex with his girlfriend of 6 months he must be LOCO
Author bebegal Posted February 23, 2006 Author Posted February 23, 2006 1) I am not ready yet 2) sex is big thing.. 3) I made my other g friends wait However he lets me do things to him but has only done something to me...using his finger.. twice in 6 months.. He has no libido or he is anxious/nervous about it. Whatever it is ..it is killing me.. He makes an excuse everytime we get close.
amerikajin Posted February 23, 2006 Posted February 23, 2006 How far have you gone with him? BJ? HJ? I think it's severe anxiety. Could be performance anxiety.
Author bebegal Posted February 23, 2006 Author Posted February 23, 2006 If that is true.. which I hope it is.. anxiety about it.. as he does mkae a nervous laugh when we begin to get.. intimate. The most we have done is me bj and him..fingering only... what can I do.. or else he will get more and more anxious and we will never have sex.. he will put it off forever!
amerikajin Posted February 23, 2006 Posted February 23, 2006 I've said it before but communication is everything. Just talk to him about it. Next time you go for it, you'll probably run into the same problem again. But instead of backing off, use that as an opportunity to talk to him about it openly. Ask him why he's so nervous about it and just see if you can't get him to open up - what he says may surprise you. Just be sensitive and reassure him that you like him. You might want to reassure him that he you are understanding about sex; that you realize it can take a while for people to get comfortable with each other. I think the thing here is to comfort and reassure him. He's obviously very uptight, so he needs to get into a comfort zone. I think he really likes you and he's just afraid that he's going to let you down somehow. Maybe he's making sure that you like him so much that sex won't matter so much, but I think he's going to the extreme. If - and only if - he refuses to open up and start working toward a sexual relationship would I forewarn him that you need sex in a relationship. He needs reassurance right now. If he doesn't open up then just tell him that sex is important to you and that you can't go on like this.
Sassy Posted February 23, 2006 Posted February 23, 2006 Maybe he respects you and wants to wait till it is right . You should be glad you have someone that respects you enough not to force you or pressure you. I didn't have sex with my s/o for a long time cause ,i wanted to be sure he was right for me. Sex changes everything and you should get to know someone first before jumping in the sack. Maybe it is a religious thing?
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