Aaurora_26 Posted February 23, 2006 Posted February 23, 2006 Hi all – I am after some opinions on something my MM (what do you call an MM when is is not married, but just has a girlfriend?) has done. Bascially, we were involved in an emotional affair with a little bit of physical contact, mostly hugging and touching (no sex) for 4 months. He has since told his girlfriend about us and he is going to try and work it out with her and she has forbidden him to talk to me/see me anymore. We work together, so it is a bit tricky but basically we just don’t really talk anymore. I am of course upset and I miss/love him a lot but I understand. I have basically backed away from him and I am trying to get over it and it’s taking a long time as you all are probably well aware! We pretty much don’t talk anymore, he can barely look me in the eye and he avoids me. We have talked twice since he broke it off with me, and that was 25 days ago. I am coping much better than I thought I would and each day seems to get easier for me as I am of the opinion that he wants nothing to do with me. Now, a couple of days ago, I went to the shops which is at the end of my street. I noticed his car in the parking lot and walked over to check out the number plate to see if it was his car. It was. He reversed out as I started walking over and drove off. I texted him and said that I saw him and that I caught him out again. I have caught him out two times before, driving down my street and following me to work. He has done this other times as well but I didn’t catch him out. I also drive past his house sometimes, so I’m not too worried about it. I find it amusing when he does it to me. But….I confronted him about it the next day and he pretended that he knew nothing of it. He ended up confessing that he was there but only to look in the shops for ‘specials’. When I asked what did he buy, he didn’t say. I could see he was lying…he is not a very good liar! He lives 20 minutes away from my house so it's not like the shops are convenient to him. So, my question is….why, when he is supposed to not see me anymore, when he is not supposed to talk to me, when he broke it off with me….is he hanging around my house? What do you guys think, do you think it is because he has made the wrong decision? Does he miss me? I am so confused. This is my first time posting here but I have been reading these forums ever since this has happened to me. You guys have been a big help to so many people. If anyone wants to know the full story from beginning to end, please ask and I will tell.
Author Aaurora_26 Posted February 23, 2006 Author Posted February 23, 2006 Also, he said once before that he used to drive past my house as he felt closer to me. Is this still the case and why when he has chosen to be with her does he still want to feel closer to me? I can't figure men out!
Author Aaurora_26 Posted February 23, 2006 Author Posted February 23, 2006 I didn't get the impression from him that he was a player. This was the first time he has done something like this......I just am curious to know what does everyone think why he is hanging around my house.
whichwayisup Posted February 23, 2006 Posted February 23, 2006 I think you're thinking too much about him. Period. It's over, he has told you it's over and his girlfriend wants you two not to talk or see eachother. So, leave him alone, don't try to see if it's his car coming down the street or thinking he's watching out for you. Really, what does it matter either way? He is with her, so even if he was looking for you, it isn't going to go anywhere. The best thing you can do is just keep busy, focus on other things in your life. The more you do that, the less you'll care what he thinks/feels.
KnowHowLoveFeels Posted February 23, 2006 Posted February 23, 2006 I didn't get the impression from him that he was a player. This was the first time he has done something like this......I just am curious to know what does everyone think why he is hanging around my house. Aaurora, I don't mean to sound harsh. I just don't want you to get hurt. If he is interested in having an honest relationship with you, why doesn't he tell you and his GF so? If he is adult enough to have a relationship, then he should act like one, don't you think? I don't play games. That's why I have only been intimate with one man in my life, and that's my husband. Don't read any further into his games. You are only putting yourself in a hole if you keep digging it.
Walking away Posted February 23, 2006 Posted February 23, 2006 Funny...I heard this at work yesterday, and I got a chuckle because of the truth of it... When you find yourself in a hole, STOP DIGGING!
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