hooghie Posted February 22, 2006 Posted February 22, 2006 I lost a watch I loved about a month ago and my BF got me a watch as a surprise. He put a lot of thought into it and spent several hundred dollars on it. The problem is- it is way too casual for me to wear unless I'm out having fun and I don't really like it that much. What can I say to him so that he returns it without hurting his feelings? Should I just keep it? It was so sweet of him to do what he did- I really don't want him to feel bad, but I also hate the idea that he spent all that money on something I don't like and won't wear often. Any advice is appreciated.
TeaCooler Posted February 22, 2006 Posted February 22, 2006 maybe he isn't expecting you to wear it everyday. use it as you said, once in a while when out. it can be your "good" watch. and get another one for the rest of the time.
littlepiggy1 Posted February 22, 2006 Posted February 22, 2006 I'd say it depends on how insecure he is. If he's not insecure, then talking to him about would probably be okay. But if he's insecure, then he might have his feelings hurt.
RubixCube28 Posted February 22, 2006 Posted February 22, 2006 Yeah thats a good idea use it when you go out only.. If not then maybe just tell him.. You love it that he was so sweet and thoughtfull to get you it..But it's not quite your style and you wouldent feel comfterable in it.. If he really cares about you he will be happy to let you return it.. And get the one that would make you happyer..
Author hooghie Posted February 22, 2006 Author Posted February 22, 2006 thanks everyone. I just talked to my mom who is very very wise. She said to keep it and only wear it once in a while and let him know I will only wear it on special occasions because I don't want to lose it. I think she is right. I really don't want to hurt his feelings when he put so much thought into it.
brightskies Posted February 22, 2006 Posted February 22, 2006 I reluctantly agree with you mom. In my experience, men tend to be sensitive about having their efforts to make you happy "criticized." Such as when you point out that the present he got you wasn't quite what you wanted, even though you appreciate it, or that the dish he cooked for you was good but "it might need a bit of salt." On the other hand, I also find that they also tend to be more accepting of whatever the girl does for him, so they're in some ways, quite a bit easier to please. Perhaps they expect that same kind of open acceptance from their girlfriends/wives? What was your mom's reasoning for her advice? So, how does one let him know what you'd really like so he gets it right next time? I find that it helps if you casually "plant" ideas now and again BUT not at the time he gives the gift. If he cares about you, it's likely that he'll remember that time you mentioned how much you enjoy white roses or whatever it is.
SuperMonk Posted February 22, 2006 Posted February 22, 2006 If you plan to wear it once in awhile, just keep it. Man, if I was gonna spend a couple hundred on a piece of jewelry I'd get advice from my girl first or at least tool around for some hints on what she likes and don't like.
Author hooghie Posted February 22, 2006 Author Posted February 22, 2006 Thanks guys. He's usually VERY good with gifts. He just missed it a little here. I like linked bracelets- this is a linked bracelet watch. I love silver. This is silver. I just became an attorney- this is an 'ESQ' watch. That is what is sad- he spent a lot of time and thought to get something he thought I would like and missed it this time and wanted it to be a surprise.
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