Guest Posted February 27, 2006 Posted February 27, 2006 well would you consider it cheating if it was masturbating to real live people? not just porn, but like say, yahoo messenger live webcams. whether or not your sig. other was on cam too, if they're typing to the person on the cam and watching them, would that be considered cheating?
elijahBailey Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 i agree with everything except 'emotional cheating'. what the heck is that Cheating has to definitely involve the exchanging of fluids.
lindya Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 i agree with everything except 'emotional cheating'. what the heck is that I'd say it's when your partner forms an opposite sex friendship with someone who fulfils their emotional needs, and requires support from them to the extent that it constantly eats into your time together. Even though they're not physically intimate, there's a strong sense that they're not quite sure how they feel about eachother...and that it may well turn intimate at a later date. It's pretty crap to watch someone you're with getting into that situation with an opposite sex friend, and difficult to know how to address it without providing them with a catalyst for consummating the relationship.
cal gal Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 I once watched a very drunk girl get dared to shift a standard car with nothing but her p*ssy because she was dared. I'll be damned if she didn't put that thing in gear....what a grip. Dang - does this constitute as cheating as well? he he Everyone seems to want to classify anything as cheating these days. Seems even a simple friendship with the opposite sex is out of line???? What's with that?
LucreziaBorgia Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 Cheating = whatever you and your partner mutually agree upon as cheating within the context of your relationship. Unfortunately, the 'mutually' part can constitute the difficulties.
Author a4a Posted February 28, 2006 Author Posted February 28, 2006 Originally Posted by TUDOR I once watched a very drunk girl get dared to shift a standard car with nothing but her p*ssy because she was dared. I'll be damned if she didn't put that thing in gear....what a grip. Dang - does this constitute as cheating as well? he he Everyone seems to want to classify anything as cheating these days. Seems even a simple friendship with the opposite sex is out of line???? What's with that? No that is not cheating that is just in poor taste unless a large bet was placed on it and the gear shifter was the one to take home the pot.
Author a4a Posted February 28, 2006 Author Posted February 28, 2006 If I flashed my H's best friend my tits is that cheating????
cal gal Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 If I flashed my H's best friend my tits is that cheating???? Would your hubby be mad? Would he be also standing right there? Some people don't get worried about a bit of skin and showing it, but then hey, I live in Cali where all you see is skin and cleavage! NOW, if you asked him to suck them while showing, that might be another story.... he he
Author a4a Posted February 28, 2006 Author Posted February 28, 2006 Would your hubby be mad? Would he be also standing right there? Some people don't get worried about a bit of skin and showing it, but then hey, I live in Cali where all you see is skin and cleavage! NOW, if you asked him to suck them while showing, that might be another story.... he he Well Hs buddy got naked and popped into my shower right smack in front of both of us in the bathroom.... I did not see much.....nor cared to. It was hey I am getting in the shower...... and he just did Of course there is no way in hell either him or I would touch each other with a 10 pole because we all have mutual friend respect.....those lines are firmly drawn. Now if H's wife found out he did this.........all hell would break out YIKES! I think H would be pissed as all hell if I flashed anyone! So I may just do it!
cal gal Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 I loved to be unpredictable in my marriage.... Just when he thought he had me figured out.... guess what?
Author a4a Posted February 28, 2006 Author Posted February 28, 2006 I loved to be unpredictable in my marriage.... Just when he thought he had me figured out.... guess what? I must be in one hell of a mood because now I am thinking of some very UNPREDICTABLE things to do....... suggestions? Perhaps offer his best F a BJ right in front of my H........ Yeah that would be the day...... but shoot that would light up his buttons for sure :lmao:
cal gal Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 I must be in one hell of a mood because now I am thinking of some very UNPREDICTABLE things to do....... suggestions? Perhaps offer his best F a BJ right in front of my H........ Yeah that would be the day...... but shoot that would light up his buttons for sure :lmao: Don't OFFER! Just walk up to him and start unzipping his pants.... the friend will pull away, and your H will be WTF???? Then a good giggle ought to help! Oh ya, then you can say, oooopsie, wrong man, silly me! :lmao:
lindya Posted February 28, 2006 Posted February 28, 2006 Cheating = whatever you and your partner mutually agree upon as cheating within the context of your relationship. Unfortunately, the 'mutually' part can constitute the difficulties. Exactly. I agree with Tudor that one form of cheating tends to precede another. Your partner develops an opposite sex friendship. The person becomes a confidante, so suddenly he has someone else with whom he can discuss important issues. Communication between you starts to lessen, and you can feel his loyalties shifting. The "we're just friends" line is a pretty effective gag on any attempts to save the relationship by openly discussing the concerns you have about it. Channels of communication are further closed down. He changes. You change. When you try to talk about it, you pick up the friend's influence in everything he says....and nothing you say has any impact any more. I don't consider myself to be stupid emotionally, but when I found myself in that situation I felt completely powerless. If I found myself in that situation again, I would just walk away. I wouldn't try to fight for my relationship the way I did last time...because once someone starts to transfer their affections away from you and onto their opposite sex "friend", it really is pointless to hang around and watch things reach their natural conclusion.
Author a4a Posted February 28, 2006 Author Posted February 28, 2006 I don't consider myself to be stupid emotionally, but when I found myself in that situation I felt completely powerless. If I found myself in that situation again, I would just walk away. I wouldn't try to fight for my relationship the way I did last time...because once someone starts to transfer their affections away from you and onto their opposite sex "friend", it really is pointless to hang around and watch things reach their natural conclusion. very true ....tis pointless and painful.
jandy girl Posted March 1, 2006 Posted March 1, 2006 lindya i agree totally, that is a brutally honest opinion people 'cheat' or have these 'friends' because they are not getting something from their current relationship, and instead of perhaps facing the issue at hand and dealing with it together or ending the relationship,no no no, cheating is soooooo much easier NOT!!!!!!! defining cheating as i see it is a fluid concept and everyone has different tolerance levels. you have to be comfortable with accepting the level that has happened ie: full sex or txt message flirting. you have to be able to continue in the relationship while respecting yourself and your values while forgiving and accepting your partners or maybe your own..... i see cheating as..... sex, oral sex, kissing, talking dirty and not joking about it and hiding relationships thats all i can think of for now, but its pretty well a hands off everyone else and worship me - i will reward you in the best way policy with me, seems to be working pretty well, for both of us
elijahBailey Posted March 1, 2006 Posted March 1, 2006 I don't consider myself to be stupid emotionally, but when I found myself in that situation I felt completely powerless. If I found myself in that situation again, I would just walk away. I wouldn't try to fight for my relationship the way I did last time...because once someone starts to transfer their affections away from you and onto their opposite sex "friend", it really is pointless to hang around and watch things reach their natural conclusion. wow I feel for ya girl, and I know wha'cha talkin about. But people make mistakes. If you think there's a chance you can salvage it, you must certainly give it a shot. Somethings are worth fightin' for. i see cheating as..... sex, oral sex, kissing, talking dirty and not joking about it and hiding relationships talkin' dirty?.... : how dirty? ....
lindya Posted March 1, 2006 Posted March 1, 2006 wow I feel for ya girl, and I know wha'cha talkin about. But people make mistakes. If you think there's a chance you can salvage it, you must certainly give it a shot. Somethings are worth fightin' for. Thanks, EB. You're probably right. I guess in a situation like that it's only when you're presented with conclusive proof that you can't salvage it that you realise it wasn't worth fighting for.
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