mikeyboy1990 Posted February 22, 2006 Posted February 22, 2006 Hello I'm Michael I'm 16 years old. Ok just day before yesterday I gave my girlfriend my password to my webpages such as Myspace and Sconex(My high school online). Because i felt as if she didnt trust me, she thought i was going online and messing with other girls and I told her i didnt. But i lied to her because the first month or so of our relationship i would just go online and comment on girls pages and give them my screename and say hey sexy. I really didn't know what i was doing back then because i wasn't sure if our relationship would last long or not. So anyways after i gave her my screename and password to my webpages she went and checked my inbox and sent messages and saw what i wrote to other girls. Now when i called her yesterday she was like oh you told me so many lies about not messing with other girls and she was crying and stuff. My girlfriend and i have been going out for almost nearly 5 months. But after a while in the relationship i realized i was in love with her and so did she thats exactly when i stopped messing with other girls online. But since she found out the other day about how i was talking to girls in the past it broke her heart and made her cry. Now im here at my house moping the whole day and i feel bad. She has decided to give me a second chance with our relationship. But i feel she is going to look at me different now and everything. Tommorw i got a date with her and it the first time seeing her since this incident happened. So I really don't know how to approach her and make her feel I'm the same person i always been. Oh yeah and when i was on the phone with her she made me feel so bad because she was telling me the way i treated her made her feel like she wasnt good enough for me and that i probaly didnt even like her the first time me and her met like i said i did. Now she thinks I'm like the other boys because all they do is cheat on girls and stuff. I feel so bad that she said that because none of it is true. Please help me i love her so much and dont want to loose her. I'm not the best looking guy if you know what i mean and she is really pretty and alot of guys want her but out of all of them she choose me and she actually accepts me for who i am flaws and everything. I really can't loose a girl like that please help me i beg of you.
filarena Posted February 23, 2006 Posted February 23, 2006 She's giving you a second chance right? So just relax. You f*cked up, but she's willing to keep trying. Don't f*ck up again. Yeah, she probably does see you differently now. Having been in exactly her shoes, I understand. But you can--eventually--regain her trust. It took me weeks to trust my gf again after finding out she did exactly what you did, but I do now.
Citizen Erased Posted February 23, 2006 Posted February 23, 2006 I agree with filarena, just try to move on and accept that things will be different. Everyone makes mistakes and you have made one but you are old enough to deal with the consequences. Dont ever do that to anyone as it is absolutely horrible. The whole point of a relationship is that you are with them and ONLY them (unless you have an agreement with them but thats a whole other story!) because to some girls emotional cheating is just as bad, sometimes worse, then physical. You may have thought at the time that you weren't that serious but she obviously did, just take it as a life lesson that indeed men are from mars and women are from Venus, but it doesnt mean we are another species! You sound like a decent enough guy so just be attentive to her, be nice and fun and just learn from your mistakes. Have fun on your date!
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