loverrr Posted February 22, 2006 Posted February 22, 2006 This guy i have known for approx 5 years (he is my courier/delivery man) got told by me about a year ago that i had feelings for him. I never pressured him in any way shape or from - i told him "I just wanted you to know i have these feelings for you, i am not expecting anything from you, the ball is in your court now" We would send each other notes each delivery day (once a week) he never responded but would keep the notes general then one day got a note to "keep it casual no hurry" so i have since then, never mentioned anything about my feelings for him again, all the notes i write to him are all casual "Have a great weekend, how you been keeping?" etc Valentines Day i get a note in mail box saying "XX for V Day" I didnt think anything of it but was excited, i responded with "thanks for the note nice to know you were thinking of me" Then i get one back saying "Like i told u a while ago, keep it casual and relxaed that way there is no pressure" What is he on about?? Someone help please????
Author loverrr Posted February 22, 2006 Author Posted February 22, 2006 I am really crazy about this man but dont know what to think or do with him. Is he playing games with me?? We flirt like crazy when we see each other. Is that all i am to him a flirt? It really hurts, i have really strong feelings for this man, we have spent all up man many hours talking on our rounds, i feel as though he has lead me on and now is playing games because he wants out and doesnt know how to say:(
witabix Posted February 22, 2006 Posted February 22, 2006 I am as mystified as you.... Keep what casual? You are not dating/seeing each other?
Author loverrr Posted February 22, 2006 Author Posted February 22, 2006 witabix - LOL I am glad i am not the only one that cant figure him out. We're not dating or anything, we never have been either.
witabix Posted February 22, 2006 Posted February 22, 2006 Is he in a relationship with some one else?
Author loverrr Posted February 22, 2006 Author Posted February 22, 2006 witabix no he's not in a relationship with anyone or so he has told me, but he did admit to having "good time girls"
serial muse Posted February 22, 2006 Posted February 22, 2006 loverrr - i'm sure the flirting is fun and exciting, but honestly - he sounds like a pain in the a$$ waiting to happen. i'm worried that if he gave you even an inch more attention - just an extra glance, perhaps, or one more "X" - you'd pin more unlikely expectations on him, which is exactly the sort of thing that would make him run run run away. at least he's telling you honestly he doesn't want to make any effort (but i'm afraid it sounds like you're hoping for more). i advise you not to embroil yourself in this...it's just going to create drama for you. next.
hooghie Posted February 22, 2006 Posted February 22, 2006 Doesn't sound like he's interested in you- sorry Don't read too much into the happy valentines day- lots of people say that to everyone they know- not just someone they are interested in. Like you said- the ball is in HIS court. He knows you are interested. If he wants something more than friendship from you, he will make it clear.
goingforgold Posted February 22, 2006 Posted February 22, 2006 sounds to me like he is confused and doesnt know what he wants
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