Saraa Posted February 22, 2006 Posted February 22, 2006 Right now my friend is trying to get out of a relationship she doesn't want to be in. She liked the idea of liking the guy but when he asked her out, that changed everything. She lost her freedom, her willingness to go about and flirt with other guys and she was closed in to this one person that she lost the emotional attachment for. I've tried to help her break up with him in any way I could, but she feels that by breaking up with him everyone will hate her in her band class because they all like them being together so much. I've tried to show her that she shouldn't let other people decide her feelings for her and she doesn't see it that way and I'm not going to force her to see it. Although the way she is treating him isn't doing much good any way. SHe's trying to drop hints that she doesn't want to be together but he either sees it and doesn't want to break up or he doesn't notice it. The tips she's dropping aren't subtle at all, she'll walk quite far ahead of him and when she's sees her other friends runs to them to talk, while he trails behind looking all sad and lonely. I don't find it fair that he's putting him self through that or that she's doing this but it's their choices I just want to try and do something about it if I can. If anyone can help I'd greatly appreciate it thankyou.
Tony T Posted February 22, 2006 Posted February 22, 2006 This lady needs serious psychological counselling. If her whole world gets turned upside down because some guy asks her out, she's in big trouble. If she isn't assertive enough to say NO and get away from somebody who is not positive in her life, she's in even MORE trouble. Get your friend some help. There are excellent workshops in assertiveness training...in learning to speak you mind and take action that promotes personal happiness. Get her enrolled in one. It's simply not normal for somebody to feel they've lost all their freedom just because somebody asked them out. Additionally, it would be a lot better if she came to this forum and asked for her own advice. If she sent you out to get it, she's got more problems yet. If you are seeking advice for her on your own, you are out of order. This girl needs to take care of her own life...and you should take care of your own, unless you are asked for help and freely choose to give it.
Recommended Posts