I AM SO CONFUSED Posted February 21, 2006 Posted February 21, 2006 OK....suppose you ask someone you like out and they neither say yes or no.....just that they need to think it over! Assuming nothing happens would you "back" off and forget about them or would you pursue this again by asking them out again! Juts curious as i only usually ask the once but is this normal?
tanbark813 Posted February 21, 2006 Posted February 21, 2006 Only ask once. If they're interested they'll say yes. A "maybe" or "let me think about it" is a nice way of saying no.
IWalkAlone Posted February 21, 2006 Posted February 21, 2006 Only ask once. If they're interested they'll say yes. A "maybe" or "let me think about it" is a nice way of saying no. Why are those considered "nice ways?" If I like someone enough to ask them out, I want to assume they're honest enough to give me straight answers. So I feel "maybe" or "I'm really busy this weekend - maybe some other time" should mean what the words say. But when I get these answers I'm then in a position of trying to figure out if she's lying to me or not. When women have said "no, I'm not attracted to you in that way" I respect them for being honest and not disrespectful of my feelings by allowing me to keep any expectations I had of dating them.
tanbark813 Posted February 21, 2006 Posted February 21, 2006 Why are those considered "nice ways?" If I like someone enough to ask them out, I want to assume they're honest enough to give me straight answers. So I feel "maybe" or "I'm really busy this weekend - maybe some other time" should mean what the words say. But when I get these answers I'm then in a position of trying to figure out if she's lying to me or not. When women have said "no, I'm not attracted to you in that way" I respect them for being honest and not disrespectful of my feelings by allowing me to keep any expectations I had of dating them. Just because you think someone should give you a straight answer doesn't mean they will. Ideally, it's nice when a person just answers with an honest "no" but that's not always a case. Anything short of a "yes" when asking someone out is a "no".
alphamale Posted February 21, 2006 Posted February 21, 2006 Anything short of a "yes" when asking someone out is a "no". agreed 100%
Author I AM SO CONFUSED Posted February 21, 2006 Author Posted February 21, 2006 you're probab;y right....but what if the other person was not single then? it does not mean they don't like you does it
gfto Posted February 21, 2006 Posted February 21, 2006 doesn't matter. As tanbark and alpha said, when you ask her out, she'll say yes, or make a counteroffer, if she's interested. Anything less means she isn't interested in you.
alphamale Posted February 21, 2006 Posted February 21, 2006 doesn't matter. As tanbark and alpha said, when you ask her out, she'll say yes, or make a counteroffer, if she's interested. Anything less means she isn't interested in you. and its should be a quick and enthusiastic "yes"....no hesitation or beating around the bush or "umm...i don't know"
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