napervillepeach Posted February 21, 2006 Posted February 21, 2006 My boyfriend and I met at work. We started hanging out and dating in May of 2005. We officially started dating in October when I came to find out a little while back that he lived with his ex and was moving out when he met me and not living with her when we started dating. I also found out that he cheated on her with me.... So all in all he tells me that they have no contact but they other day I looked at his cell phone to call one of his friends about a surprise birthday present for him and I saw that he had called her. She lives close by and I guess I am wondering what I can do to get her out of his life. I just cannot figure out why he keeps contact with her if I am living with him now and he tells me that they are thru. I guess I would not be so bothered by this if it was an open relationship with the 3 of us..but when I have asked if I will ever meet her his first response was she doesnt like you and she doesnt want to meet you. The interesting thing about this situation is as I was moving in one night I texted an old friend of minne from highschool regarding a concert. I got nervous when my boyfriend walked up behind me and scared me that I closed my phone.We later had an enourmous fight that I was texting someone and how much it hurt him even if nothing was going on. But then last night I tried to get another phone number so I could finish his birthday surprise and noticed that he sent her a text message saying good night. I guess he did respect me on cuttinng down the txts.emails.calls but the last thing I wanted was for it to be hidden...why cant I at least be told of the friendship... I just dont know what to do anymore. when I have asked him about it he says they are done and has gotten mad at me saying I thought we were over this...i dont know what else to do. I realize it is equally her as it is him especially since she knows about me. I just dont know what to do anymore. I never used to be insecure and question things and now I do. I need some help.
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