csfong007 Posted February 21, 2006 Posted February 21, 2006 If a couple is having some difficulties in their relationship, do you think a break is helpful?
ChaseYng2005 Posted February 21, 2006 Posted February 21, 2006 No, but talking is...unless by break you mean break-up, because that's mostly what breaks result in...
Kengne Posted February 21, 2006 Posted February 21, 2006 If a couple is having some difficulties in their relationship, do you think a break is helpful? NO. What does that mean? Let's take a break from what, the problems?? The stress?? The arguments?? How do people work on their COUPLE ISSUES ... while taking a break?? It makes no sense! Just break up - or work at it together. No point in half-a$$ing it. K.
skeptik224 Posted February 21, 2006 Posted February 21, 2006 I think taking a break makes things worse. You need to talk about whatever problems exist and work through them. If you aren't interested in doing that then it's time to leave the relationship.
WindDrifter Posted February 22, 2006 Posted February 22, 2006 Well I have had a break with my girlfriend and we got back together. The main thing is that you need to understand yourself why you need a break. If you need time by yourself and just need to think about what is important to you and if you really want a relationship then you have to do it if you feel the need. If you know you are just going to sleep with others and don't give a damn about her then break up. Taking a break can help you realise what you really want but saying this you need to be open and communicate with your partner what you are feeling and why. Let them understand this time is for them as well. If you can put a time on it then that is great. Personally I think it is only fair to expect someone to wait maybe 1-2 months but after that you are pushing it. Also I recommened maybe only seeing the person once a week and maybe talking once or twice a week and then after 2-3 weeks of this then try full no contact and see how you feel? You have to talk about things and understand why you are doing this otherwise it could be a futile exercise. Break can be both pointless and encouraging in a relationship it just depends on your situation and one thing i have learnt on these boards every person relationship is different because we are all different so the above it only what I recommened but only you know how you feel. Lastely BE HONEST! Without it you will be lost. Cheers, WD
clynn Posted February 22, 2006 Posted February 22, 2006 actually, I may be kind of weird in this one....but I think that a "Break" can be good for some relationships. Just gives you some mental space so that you can focus on whatever you need to....sometimes just a battery recharge. Makes things more interesting / exciting when you reconnect. I think we do that with some friends and family once in a while too. Just to give each other space. Some people deal best with problems by talking them through...sometimes you need to do some contemplating and reflecting and just plain old have a holiday from them. Then when you come back, things may be in perspective and not seem like such a big deal anymore.
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