InDoubt Posted February 21, 2006 Posted February 21, 2006 Hi all! I met this guy, 39 yrs old, through a close male friend (a terrific guy btw) who kept wanting to introduce him to me. So we all went out together. This guy took me home afterwards. He kept telling me how busy he is, trying to sort out his new business, etc. He gave me his number and told me to call him. I didn't call him, I thought he didn't look al that interested in me (for instance, I was the one who reached over to kiss him on the cheek and he didn't react much). He called two weeks later. That date went really well, he said that he wished he had called earlier. He made very cautious moves: for several dates he would just give me these playful kisses in the mouth, and kept asking if it's OK if he kissed me! This is kind of unusual where I live (Southern Europe) where men tend to be 'aggresive'. I was responding to his kisses and kissing him back but he continued to be cautious. He kept telling me that he wanted to have me over for dinner his place. Three weeks passed by, talking on the phone a lot every night, introducing me to his friends... Friday we go out for dinner, afterwards he said he wanted to spend the night with me, but I wasn't expecting this, I didn't reply and just kissed him. He said tomorrow I'll come and kidnapp you! That night I stayed at his place, we shared the bed, all night he kept hugging me and telling me how much he wanted me. Next morning we made love. He was very passionate and affectionate. At some point I begin to hurt a lot (haven't been in a relationship for a while), I tell him so but he didn't give much attention. When we get up, he makes breakfast, no change in his attitude. He drops me off at the station, says I will be very busy the next 2-3 wks, weekends too. I didn't give much attention to that, I was in heaven and thought he felt the same way. The calls stoped coming. I called him one night and he admitted he had disappered and couldn't tell me why on the phone. He wanted to talk 2 days later. He found a bad excuse to postpone it for a few days later, couldn't tell me when. I called him back saying (not in an angry way but with sadness) that I felt really awful, that he treated me as the woman for one night and did he think I deserved this treatment. I asked him what went wrong, if I did something. He assured me that was not the case, "we'll get together and talk". I haven't heard from him one week now....
flowergirl Posted February 21, 2006 Posted February 21, 2006 Forget him, girl, he's obviously playing games, and at age 39, he should be far aboce that crap, but since he's not, make him disappear from your life.
SuperMonk Posted February 21, 2006 Posted February 21, 2006 Forget him, girl, he's obviously playing games, and at age 39, he should be far aboce that crap, but since he's not, make him disappear from your life. ^^^ Exactly, if the dude was 19, alright... I'd understand. But he's 39.
InDoubt Posted February 22, 2006 Posted February 22, 2006 ...he actually told me on the phone, when I called him a week ago, that he needed a lot of 'pushing' from me as well in order for us to maintain the relationship. He's definitely not the kind of guy who would do a lot of chasing, he's lived alone for a long time and he's very involved with his new business. He's probably very insecure too and that's why he kept telling me he can't quite tell if I liked him or not, when I thought that my attention and responsiveness should be proof enough of that. He's actually a very sensitive kind of guy, very low-profile too. Maybe sleeping with me was his last card to give our 'relationship' an extra push, and when he saw that I was hurting a lot he mistook that for lack of interest on my part? I just don't know, should I give him another try now that I understand his needs more?
whichwayisup Posted February 22, 2006 Posted February 22, 2006 What relationship?????? YOU TWO JUST MET. WTF. You aren't boyfriend/girlfriend and his actions show that too. Tell him how you feel, that you're not into playing games. And that he has to respect you. I'm sorry, he isn't stupid! At 39 years old HE knows what's what with women and how they feel, especially after making love. This guy is foolin' you.
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