hiraka Posted February 21, 2006 Posted February 21, 2006 I have been in a ldr for over 6 months now. We have met once and another meeting is planned. I am a person who needs closeness, so this whole ldr is just driving me insane. Is it normal to be spiteful at times? From fustration of being apart? I know it isn't a good thing to do, but sometimes it is hard to avoid it because I can't seem to get the fustration off my back. I feel so confused at times how to feel... (make any sence?) I am a bit fustrated that as of right now, the distance has no permament solution. We have already talked about it and can't try to figure anything out until after the next visit. But the whole not knowing the end of it makes me sad. For all I know, it is doomed and never had a chance... but then on the plus side, it could work out. Sometimes how you feel can't exactly be expressed in words, but actions only... and being apart, there is no way to express how you feel with actions. Is there anything to be done to help alleviate some of the fustration of being apart? Being in a ldr is the last thing I would have considered doing, but some how... while being friends, I felt deeper feelings for him that I never felt for anyone else before. Being so open also feels very good. Anyways, how do you curb the spite? How do you curb the fustration? Just saying I miss him or I feel alone just doesn't seem to cut it... honestly nothing but being close would cut it...
confusedgeek Posted February 21, 2006 Posted February 21, 2006 I dont know what to say here. Except Good Luck, I hope everything works well, and to tough it out. I know the feeling of not being able to staying close to my girlfriend, because shes 6000 miles away. Just like yourself, I've talked with my girlfriend about the distance, and possibly about our future. But I've told her that, lets keep going and see where it leads us. All I can say is to tough it out. And if you possibly bear it, perhaps consider ending the relationship. Im not sure what else that can be done about it. Unless either one considers moving to where that person is living at? I hope this helps. - ConfusedGeek
magda Posted February 21, 2006 Posted February 21, 2006 Frustration, yes. Spite, not so much. You have to know that this is not realistic for either of you to commit to moving in quite yet.. you should be glad that he is at least being methodical about this. How far until the next meeting? Just try to look forward to this meeting instead of feel spiteful that he isn't talking about you moving in yet, or whatever your spite feelings are. Try to just think about the present.. Plan the next meeting and get excited about it, send him packages, etc. IF you are getting spiteful about this you may cause him to back off from you because of the pressure.
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