Being walked all over

[Kyo]

i basicily don't have any friends..i'm always they type of person who lets people walk all over them really.. i mean if i be a mean person, i'll feel bad and guilty about it and people look at me badly. where as someone else be mean to me, noone really cares.. it's strange. like this new kid took my seat in class..it's odd..and if i take my seat back i feel bad about it..what's wrong with me..at in emotions adn metal..social things..i'm weak. why can't it be easier like he comes at me and punch me, then i'll have a reason to kick his ass.

[JayKay]

It sounds like you have social anxiety. There are actually a lot of people who do.

 

It can be very painful and you always feel like there is something 'wrong' with you.

 

People with social anxiety often feel like;

 

* They can't assert themselves or show their true feelings

 

* 'Freeze up' in social situations, have a hard time speaking or interacting with others

 

* May be paralyzed by shyness

 

* Often feel 'alone' and misunderstood

 

* Have trouble making friends

 

* Feel walked on by others, kicked around or turned into outcasts

 

 

 

 

It's crucial for you to share your feelings with someone. Is there a counselor at your school you can talk to?

Is there anyone you are close to that you can talk to about this?

 

Social skills are learned. Some people are lucky -- they just pick up on behaviors that help them make friends and 'fit in'. for other people, it's a longer learning process.

 

I would try googling 'social anxiety' and learn about support groups and therapies that can help you.

 

Also, try to involve yourself in things that will help build self esteem. What are you good at? Language? Arts? Carpentry? Mechanics? Join clubs where your talents will help you shine.

If you can't find clubs in your area, join chat groups and boards online where you can meet people around the world who understand the things you care about.

 

Find activities outside of school or wherever you are now and meet new people who share your passion.

 

It's OK to be different. It's OK to be a sensitive person. You just need to build confidence.

[Kyo]

thanks alot, i'll try and take your advise.