skeptik224 Posted February 20, 2006 Posted February 20, 2006 Last weekend I met this girl at a neighborhood bar. She asked me if I wanted to go to another one, and I said yes. We danced, kissed, touched but nothing more. (neither of us wanted that) We ended up running into a friend of hers whom she didn't see in about 4 years. Her friend, not knowing that Rene and I just met, asked for my number since Rene didn't have one. (she thought I knew how to get in touch with her) She gave me her number as well as gave it to Rene. Well, a week goes by. Her friend called me twice trying to find Rene. I told her I had seen her car around and saw her holding some guys hand. She wanted to see if I'd go for coffee at this place where Rene frequents to see if we can run into her. I agree. We go last night. Rene shows up. I felt really weird since she didn't call me even though she said she would. I just thought it was a 1-time thing...no big deal. Then, she sat by me and quickly mentioned that the guy she was holding hands with was a friend. I said "no big deal. You don't owe me anything." Then she said "oh yeah, and this guy,I'm dating him and this guy, too." I started thinking WTF? So, after about 15 minutes I left. I felt extremely uncomfortable. I sent her a friend a text saying that I took the hint from Rene and that's why I left. Rene responded from her friends' phone saying that "there were no hints here. I guess I shouldn't quit my day job to become a comedian." NOW, I feel like a jerk. She was only kidding. I responded to the text and got no response back. I'm sure they were leaving since the coffee shop was closing. I saw her car on the street and put a note on it saying I was sorry for being a jack-ass and that I'd still like to take her to dinner to get to know her...even as a friend. (which is true) She's got a lot going on right now that I've come to find out from her friend....a lot... But...I still want to get together with this girl. In the note, I asked her to call me by the end of today if she was interested so we can make plans this week. I told her that maybe dinner with me is what she needed to take her mind off things. Question is 1) am I wasting my time? 2) should I feel like a jerk for leaving? 3) would it be ok for me to call her friend? (afterall, her friend kept calling me to find Rene in the first place)
whichwayisup Posted February 20, 2006 Posted February 20, 2006 I'm confused. Which girl do you like? The one you danced with or Rene? Or both? And does the girl you danced with like you? Maybe Rene isn't interested in you because she of her friend. Just having abit of trouble following the flow of your post, sorry. I find it odd that she hadn't seen Rene in years then all of a sudden they're best buddies again.
Author skeptik224 Posted February 20, 2006 Author Posted February 20, 2006 Sorry for the misunderstanding. The girl I danced with is Rene. She's the one I like. She's the one that didn't call me. I'm not interested in her friend and her friend isn't interested in me. Rene is the one who I want to get to know... She just moved back here from Washington so her friend and Rene lost touch.
MelissaL Posted February 20, 2006 Posted February 20, 2006 In answer to your questions: 1) yes 2) no 3) yes - but why would you want to??? My questions to you are: 1) if this other friend kept phoning you to find Rene, why didn't you explain that you just met her? 2) did it occur to either of you that the whole hanging out at the coffee shop waiting for her is a little bit strange? If Rene wanted to see/talk to either of you, she would have given you her number or called you herself. My advice - move on. This all sounds a little juvenile, so why would you want to waste your time on it?
Author skeptik224 Posted February 20, 2006 Author Posted February 20, 2006 It does seem juvenile, and I'm not really sure why I do want to contact her. In general circumstances, yes, if she did want to speak to either of us, she would have given us her number. But, the problem is she doesn't have a phone so she couldn't give us her number. I did explain it to her friend and actually, Rene told her that as well after I left the first night. Apparently, which I just found out, Rene has had some addictions in the past so her friend was worried about her. I do not want to get involved with a recovering addict only because of past issues within my family. However, if this woman is clean...totally clean, I would like to get to know her. That is also why we were waiting at the coffee shop (which I found out while waiting) I couldn't understand either why her friend was contacting me to find her until she told me about the drugs. Then it all made sense. I know it's not worth it - investing so much time into this. It's stupid and juvenile, but I don't want to not talk to her again because of my leaving last night. I don't know if that makes any sense to you, but in my head, it does.
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