kjo314 Posted February 20, 2006 Posted February 20, 2006 Guys/Gals I met this girl and have been in contact with her and I asked her to lunch and this is what I got... Heeeeaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyyyy! It was cool that we got to chat tonight! And I am going to take you up on that lunch offer!!! I mean, music, skiing, laughing, dancing, working out, french.... yeah we're gonna be friends. talk to ya soon!!!!!!!!!!! We just met like 2 days ago so I mean.....does she mean we will just ONLY be friends or does it mean she is interested but wants to get to know me more. We really don't know a lot oabout each other yet.
whichwayisup Posted February 20, 2006 Posted February 20, 2006 Too soon to tell, but she seems abit "buddy buddy" about it all. Not really showing the romantic side here. Just see what happens. You'll know pretty fast if you've been lumped into the "just" a friend zone.
Author kjo314 Posted February 20, 2006 Author Posted February 20, 2006 We just talked for the first time today so... I mean I don't know..
gfto Posted February 20, 2006 Posted February 20, 2006 I'm assuming you met this girl online? I wouldn't read much into the friends comment at this point. After all, you haven't met her yet.
salmagundi Posted February 20, 2006 Posted February 20, 2006 hate to be a downer Kjo but the fact that she is labelling you as a friend from the get go seems to me to mean that she wants to foreclose on the possibility that you will think anything romantic can develop between you, you know, she seems to be sending you a message. If her interest went beyond friends I think she would just tell you she's stoked to hang out with you...without appending this 'friends' shyte to the end of it. On the other hand, its just an email, maybe she wasnt thinking anything at all about the subtext that we're reading into it. Only one way to find out...go hang out and see if you end up friends or not. salmagundi
whichwayisup Posted February 20, 2006 Posted February 20, 2006 It's too new to know anything. Just see how things play out as time goes on. But, with that being said - If you feel you're being pushed into the 'just' friends zone - then you have to decide whether or not you want to open up and just tell her you want something more from her - Or you can just be friends, nothing else. You don't have much to lose considering it's SO new. Go for it and don't look back because if she isn't interested in you then don't waste your energy on someone who isn't into you.
jerbear Posted February 20, 2006 Posted February 20, 2006 kjo, Right now it is new and just being friendly with hanging out. Once you two meet then the vibes and chemistry arises. Not to be a downer or cruel; from you prior posts, have you resolved your prior issues? ie. ex calling, playing the field, ex being the one, etc... That is all you need, having sex with the girl, you blurt out the wrong name, then the ex calls!
Author kjo314 Posted February 21, 2006 Author Posted February 21, 2006 Sex isn't important to me. I respect womens wishes... If they don't want to have sex till marriage then that is ok to me. I can handle it.. I mean **** if you can't handle your own inhibitions then there truely is a problem. I think this whole thing that happened with my ex is kinda got me completely moving on... to be quite honest with you I don't care if she ever talks to me again. It is obvious she has her own issues to work out thinking that an online dating ad will determine marriage. Yes... I met her online... She sent me an e-mail in french a couple days ago that was fun We talked for a little bit and she seems stoked about meeting me. Her proifile says she likes to take things slow and to not rush into things. She also wasnt to be good friends with the person she falls in love with. FROM HER PROFILE I love music. I love life! I love meeting new people and making new friends. I am perfectly content being single, but I’m ready to meet...you? If nothing works out, at least I get a friend out of it. But I’m ready to date and someday to start F***** (no you perv! a F-a-m-i-l-y!!!!) Haha just kiddidng. Wow, I am hilarious. Soooooooo if you love the Lord, love to laugh, and could possibly love me… let me know anyway givem e some more advice
jerbear Posted February 21, 2006 Posted February 21, 2006 It is to new to know. Meet and go dance and ski in french then you know if you two can stand each other for more than 1 hour. Physical attaction and chemistry has to exist. If there is no attaction then nothing will happen. Just be yourself and talk to each other in french.
Author kjo314 Posted February 21, 2006 Author Posted February 21, 2006 doesn't it seem that the e-mail she sent me was a bit... "flirty"???
jerbear Posted February 21, 2006 Posted February 21, 2006 doesn't it seem that the e-mail she sent me was a bit... "flirty"??? Right now I view that as new and her being a happy person. You will have to meet her and see if there is any connections between you two. Meeting online is one thing, meeting in person is another. So think of something to do when you meet her. Something you both enjoy. Coffee house, clubbing, movie, dinner, lunch, salsa dance lesson, etc...
Author kjo314 Posted February 24, 2006 Author Posted February 24, 2006 So I was talking to her online and she was in the library and she told me to come up and see her. So I did.. We talked for a while and I asked for her number and she gave it to me. I asked her to lunch on Monday and she said yes. So.... what does this mean now??? What is the next step... She seems really shy.. that was the first time I ever really talked to her and we only talked for like a half hour but it was fun! we both laughed and talked about basic stuff made fun of each other it was a good time.. What should I do on the lunch thing!!
Author kjo314 Posted February 24, 2006 Author Posted February 24, 2006 Are things heading in the right direction.... Also since she gave me her number... should I call her sometime this weekend? or wait till monday? I am excited but also don't want ot blow it.. I want to not mess this one up because she is a gorgeous girl and seems really fun to be around.
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