pandnh4 Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 haha!!! now you're in control... just like caliguy's been saying all along... well i guess they don't always come back or break nc but at least now you've got some choices and you already know you're better off without her... =)
Author fooled Posted February 24, 2006 Author Posted February 24, 2006 Yes, but I'm FAR from over her - this still affected me. Just seeing her name did it.
bendit Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 If she keeps contacting, don't read her emails ever again and delete voice mails without listening. Just do it. It is an essential part of getting ALL the way through. They can drag you back in even after months with a simple voice message. They know what works on you. Please do what I suggest. regards
riobikini Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 Witabix: RE: " don't know if this is helping me any more. I am going to take a break from LS." I understand. There is certainly a time when you need to crawl out from under the blanket, so to speak. More like birds testing new wings, -you'll come back to the nest for food when you need it. I can't leave just yet, -it's that darn maternal thing, (Smile) -the inborn protector in me- that keeps me here. Take Care, Witabix. (Smile) -Rio
riobikini Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 Fooled, I'm proud of you. You are making progress. Whether you realize it, or not. Hang in there. (Smile) -Rio
witabix Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 Witabix: RE: I understand. There is certainly a time when you need to crawl out from under the blanket, so to speak. More like birds testing new wings, -you'll come back to the nest for food when you need it. I can't leave just yet, -it's that darn maternal thing, (Smile) -the inborn protector in me- that keeps me here. Take Care, Witabix. (Smile) -Rio Thanks Rio, weaning myself off slowly. Just looking around the forums for answers to a final question that's going through my head. Thanks again for all your thoughts and posts, you are cool:cool:
Author fooled Posted February 24, 2006 Author Posted February 24, 2006 She just called my cell and left a VM, which I deleted without listening to - then deleted the missed call. I may just have to change my numbers. That will suck - not so much my cell, but my home, which I've had for 13 years. Of course, she could always just walk the 200 yards to my place.
CaliGuy Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 Fooled I am VERY proud of you! WOOT!!!!!!!!! Dude, if you want to hang out sometime drop me a PM and we can kick back some LS talk while slamming a few beers. I'll teach you how to wrench as my garage is like a full shop.
greenshift Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 Of course, she could always just walk the 200 yards to my place. Just visualize your remote control into a Tazer. And smiiiiiiile. Seriously - I'm impressed that you're able to withstand this degree of persistence on her part; I envy your resolve. (I was going to say something cheesy about beacons and lighthouses, but it looked odd.)
Author fooled Posted February 24, 2006 Author Posted February 24, 2006 Just visualize your remote control into a Tazer. And smiiiiiiile. Seriously - I'm impressed that you're able to withstand this degree of persistence on her part; I envy your resolve. (I was going to say something cheesy about beacons and lighthouses, but it looked odd.) I honestly didn't think that she would contact me again after the drunk dial last week. I only assume that it's a professional call. She can get the answer from someone else - or if it's an opportunity and she really "cares" that much - she can call a mutual friend to tell me. But I don't know how I will react if she shows up at my door. I'll PM you, CG -- although I don't drink anymore. I'll find something to slam with you.
CaliGuy Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 I have sprite. Me, I'll take a guiness PS: Fooled, who is your cell carrier? Cingular changed their VM system and now I can't skip messages without listening to them entirely. Annoying as heck!
Author fooled Posted February 25, 2006 Author Posted February 25, 2006 I use Sprint. I'm not sure I can skip messages either, but I deleted the message as soon as the VM system said "first message, sent from..." BANG - it was gone. Message deleted.
CaliGuy Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 I use Sprint. I'm not sure I can skip messages either, but I deleted the message as soon as the VM system said "first message, sent from..." BANG - it was gone. Message deleted. You've come a long way, amigo. I am very, very proud of you.
kitten chick Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 These messages and emails, well, it's better than having her just dissapear never to be heard of again. That is truly an awful feeling. You're a really strong person to be able to ignore her. I don't know if I would be able to do it. It's good to see you moving on.
Raven1845 Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 Hang in there fooled. You did great, by the way, not calling her. I'm so proud of you. I would have caved. I hope to be stronger one day, myself. I'm sorry she put you through the call, but I'm glad you handled it by not giving in. Big hugs, Raven
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 Fooled, you are miles ahead of me in coping. Congrats for passing yet another test of your resolve. Stay strong! (me not doing well at all)
Author fooled Posted February 25, 2006 Author Posted February 25, 2006 It doesn't feel like I'm being strong - it feels more like I am performing a duty. I haven't moved on. I want to. I'm certainly not clinging to her. I'm 50% ignoring the situation and 50% working through it. I really do not want to have a face to face confrontation with her. I am hoping she avoids me altogether next month - and the next time I see her, I am over her.
bendit Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 Fooled thanks for showing us how its done. Btw, if she knocks on your door. Don't answer. Ignore. It will send a loud and clear message. You've come a long way Man. regards
Ariadne Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 was wondering... if you got my message the other night... what you've been up to... if you're seeing someone else... if you miss me... if you want to get together... if you still have feelings for me... Hahhahaha Ariadne
trone Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 I have sprite. Me, I'll take a guiness PS: Fooled, who is your cell carrier? Cingular changed their VM system and now I can't skip messages without listening to them entirely. Annoying as heck! Cali, if you press 77, it will delete the message without listening to it entirely.
greenshift Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 Some carriers don't let you delete before listening to the message. Usually, though, you can press "33" to skip to the end, then "7" to delete it. So, if you hear an unwelcome voice, just hit "337". Also, on my Cingular phone, "37" works, as well.
Author fooled Posted February 25, 2006 Author Posted February 25, 2006 Hahhahaha Ariadne What's got you amused, Aria? Okay - she called again this morning at nearly 5AM - didn't answer and she didn't leave a message. At this point she must know I am just plain ignoring her - since she didn't think it would be worthwhile to leave a message. Thought about the number changing route - and it just doesn't seem worth the trouble (of contacting everybody else with the changed info) when she lives so close and since I'm definitely going to see her throughout the spring and summer. Let's just see how much more drunk-dialing happens and how I cope with it.
greenshift Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 Wow, she's persistent. How long were you together?
Author fooled Posted February 25, 2006 Author Posted February 25, 2006 Wow, she's persistent. How long were you together? Well, she's just persistent lately. It will stop. Last night's call was more than likely to give me sh*t about not calling her back. We were together a year. And spent a lot of time together. She had to work pretty hard to fit all those other guys into our schedule.
bendit Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 I would be on alert for her to show up at your doorstep...See this is what effective NC does. It puts you in charge. It also drives some of them absolutely BATTY, which presents another problem altogether. If she escalates, then things get tougher. But Fooled, you are really really standing tall here. regards
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