RockHound Posted February 19, 2006 Posted February 19, 2006 Ok, I'll give you a quick run-down on the situation. My ex and I have been broken up for about 5 months now after a grueling 4 1/2 years. We never had a picture perfect relationship, and we certainly fought more than any couple should in a life-time together, but we were determined to stick it out. Things turned when she became pregnant and then gave birth to our son... The sudden lack of contact between us when I began woking about 60 hours a week and she was a stay-at-home mom with no family help really pushed us so far apart there was no recovering. When we finally called it quits it was because there seemed to be no way to fix our severely damaged relationship and it seemed inevitable. We may as well be responsible for our son and do it now so he doesn't have to grow up in a family where his parents are always fighting and it ends in a divorce. Since we've been apart i've had more than enough time to think of all the things I've done wrong and my contributions to why we didn't work as a couple. During the first few months I did more or less poor my heart out to her, but not so much to get her back, but to apologize for my mistakes...At the same time she does not hold anything against me and feels guilty that she ruined my life...On numerous occasions she has said that she still cares about me and just recently asked if I ever thought about us getting back together. Now if things were normal for me then everything would be fine, but I tend to be a little bit of the jealous type...ok, lets just say extremely jealous...As much as I would love to start over, even if it's months down the road with simple efforts like going on a date here or there, there are problems that stand in the way. I cannot stomach the thought of her having sex with other guys now that we are not together. She has more or less admitted that she has gone that far, but does not want to get into details...That simple fact alone is preventing me from pursuing her, despite how much I miss being with her...I don't know if it's just me, because I hear about couples go back to eachother..What can I do to get over my issues about going back to an ex?
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