nice guy444 Posted February 19, 2006 Posted February 19, 2006 My girlfriend and i had been going out for a year and a half and she cheated on me with a friend of mine, then a few months later we got back together and she promised to change and fix all the problems she caused for me in my life. But again she left me for another kid who himself has a girl friend of two years, and treats her like crap, yet she seems to be fine with it because he is rich and just buys everyones love. Because of her i have gone to therapy and havnt been able to enjoy myself at all. My mind constantly is thinking about her, and i get so angry thinking about what happened and how stupid i was for giving her a second chance. I also get angry about not making an example out of the first kid she cheated with because now people kinda take advantage of me. I treated this girl with more love and respect than any other person she knows, i always encouraged her to be the best person she was, and i spent countless hours comforting her and taking care of her every need because i am a person who enjoys having someone to care for. I dont know how to get over someone who did this to me, and i still have trouble coping with what she did to me and how she could claim to love me one day then hurt me the next. I cut all contact with the girl, but she still always askes everyone about my love life, she says bad things about me constantly, prank calls me, and uses fake screen names to try to screw with my head. I have so much emotion, sadness, depression, feel lost, and have rage, i dont know how to rid myself of these things. What does this mean if she does these things to me? and how do i get over her?
pandnh4 Posted February 19, 2006 Posted February 19, 2006 if she cheated on you before and later on ran off with someone who is wealthy, chances are she will do it again to another... this is the type of person who can temporarily settle for someone yet always keeps their eyes open for the bigger, better deal... constantly looking for upgrades and ways to move up without relying on her own pride and self-accomplishments... my former was this way too: an opportunistic, conceited, and materialistic person who was driven by envy and a drive to feel validated by others... she would bask in others' glory, leech off of others' money, and always want more... though she never cheated on me, she was very flirtatious and i wouldn't put it past her to do that in the future... not to mention that nothing was ever her fault; saying sorry was such a chore, and everyone always had to cater to her... it is hard moving on, especially when the other person is happier and getting everything at the moment, but you've got to believe that this is only temporary... people like that don't know how to truly appreciate things or other people; they love getting all they can until they decide it's time to up the standards, often beyond what is reasonable... i too often obsess about my former, what she's doing, who she's with, etc... it frustrates me to no end that she will easily find someone wealthier and more successful as she seems to have her pick of men... on the other hand, she brings very little herself and is likely to continue wanting more; either that or people will grow tired of her irrational ways and standards... a relationship should be about complimenting and helping one another...
Guest Posted February 19, 2006 Posted February 19, 2006 Nice Guy you need to cut the umbilical cord attached to her and move on. She wants you but wants to do whatever else she wants and if you are as nice as you say you are - she's taking total advantage of you. Why do you feel the need to take care of someone? You can't go around rescuing others then thinking they owe you in return. When you try to rescue someone who's drowning - you just get pulled down with them. Then they're going to stomp on you on their way back to the surface. Why do you let someone treat you like this?
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