shoegirl81 Posted February 18, 2006 Posted February 18, 2006 Tomorrow will be two weeks that we have been broken up. It has been probably the worst two weeks I have ever had. We were best friends for about 2 years, and then decided to date...which lasted a year. In the begining things were absolutely great...and we talked about a future together, living together...everything. The past 3 months, things have slowly went downhill. He really isn't out of his party phase...going out drinking all the time, needing his friend time all the time, etc. I guess because I started to get comfortable with him and settle down, I was no longer a challenge to him. Girls do mature faster than guys...we are both 24. I knew that I wasn't getting what I needed from him...but I thought it was just a phase. We had TONS of mutual friends, who I can no longer talk to/hang out with anymore because of the situation. They "technically" were his friends first. He hasn't contacted me once...but over the two weeks I have sent him a couple IM's, 2 emails (although one was just telling him I dropped off everything), and called twice. I know this is the wrong thing to do...but I don't know how to keep myself from calling. My feelings are completely hurt, because he acted like this was absolutely nothing to him. He has went out drinking close to every night...and is already hanging out with the girl who caused many problems in our relationship. He lives 2 blocks from me, so I have to drive by all the time...so I always see who is at his house. He really makes me feel like the last year of my life was a complete waste. To guys just handle this differently? How do I find the strength no let go, and not call him? There are many questions I have...but I will start with that one. How do I do it, I seem to think of anything at all to conact him. I'm hurting so bad...I'm a mess. This is only the 2nd major relationship for me...and he is the only guy I ever thought I would marry. Please give me some advice.
UT_longhorn Posted February 18, 2006 Posted February 18, 2006 shoegirl...im sorry to hear about your pain. i am there with you. and i am at 7 weeks. its going to be a long journey and you're just at the begining. it will get better. time is the healer. start reading the posts on the site. get rid of anything in your place that reminds you of him. store them away where you can't see them. drive in a different direction so that you will not have to pass by his house. driving there will only cause you emotional torture. do not contact him. this is the biggest rule of breaking up. no contact. you'll see thats the prevalent theme here. are you close with your family? id try to talk to them. call your friends over. cry to them. you got to get yourself up and moving. don't stay at home alone. stay with friends.
Outcast Posted February 18, 2006 Posted February 18, 2006 You will go on. People go through horrific things, survive, and thrive. In ten years, you'll have trouble remembering his name. Give time a chance to heal you - it will.
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