How do i get over my ex gf?

[nice guy444]

I went out with this girl for about a year and a half. We started going out the middle of senior year in highschool. Everything was great we both cared about eachother very much and i always made the extra effort to let her know i cared and that i loved her. She was the sweet innocent girl who came from a small all girls catholic school, she was very down to earth and did not give in to peer pressure. As college kicked off i had many problems with my school and was looking to transfer which she suggested for me to transfer to her school for sophmore year. We kept our relationship going strong and saw eachother quite freqently and talked multiple times a day. then the middle of second semester of freshman year of college when she cheated on me with a kid who was going to be my roommate when i transfered to her school the weekend before valentines day. During the beginnging of second semester i noticed she had been drinking much more and couldnt handle it which i had told her she needed to stop because she was hurting me with the things she said and her flirtatious behavior. I was willing to forgive her and give it a second chance she tried that and used me for a bit then decided to date the kid she cheated with. Because of that at the last minute i changed my mind and transfered to a different school from her because of the cheating. I then was miserable for the rest of the year, moved home from school, grades went down, and went to therapy. That spring a day before my bday she called me up and wanted to get back together. She made many changes and showed improvement, things were great until she left for the cape to work for a month where she ended up cheating and dumping me again for a kid who was 17 (shes 19 @the time) from texas very rich and had a girl friend. They ended up dating despite him having a girlfriend and they hooked up and did things she morally thought was wrong when her and i were together. Its been a long time since we have talked face to face, I avoid places where i know shes going to be. She still calls my friends tho shes not close to them, and prank calls me periodically. She also makes up fake screen names pretends to be someone else and pretends to hit on me and find out what my dating status is. I want to know why she would continue to medal with my life tho shes the one who dumped me and why she tries to put herself in visable places such as trying to be with my friends. Also how come i care about her still and cant seem to find another girl because i miss the old her so much? How do i get over her? What possesses her to do all these horrible things and seem to have no regrets? She apparantly has had multiple bfs after the texas kid and has been hookinup constantly which was unlike her totally. And recently i found out she apparently had many drunk kisses and who knows what else while her and i were going out. She seems to have nothing but bad things to say bout me to people. What do i do?

[LonelyinOhio]

ok -- here's the deal -- every time I read about someone your age (ie, less than 28 years old) on here, especially someone less that 22 years old and still in college, my first inclination is to write it off, because when you are that young, you just are gonna deal with this crap a lot. And by that I mean, you're gonna meet someone in high school who "suddenly" becomes someone else when they go off to school. I know this seems shocking to you, but college is a brand new and UNIQUE environment -- and as such, it offers everyone a chance to bring out the best and worst in themselves - and it should. That's what it's there to do. So what should you do? LIVE IT UP. Recognize that the college environment you are in is your best chance in life to meet new people, try new things and just have a good time. She's doing it, and you WILL regret it if you don't too -- trust me, I regret having had a gf all through college. So do what she is doing -- have fun. Enjoy your youth and your college experience.

 

Having said that, I also know what it is like to have your heart broken during this time period, and I know it's not easy. But, like everyone else on this board, the same lessons apply -- don't contact her, don't respond to her contact to you, and just move on -- and that is easier said than done, but believe me -- it is the best thing for you to do. Just meet new girls -- I bet there are hundreds of single women in your school, if not thousands. Deal with the difficulty of letting her go, and don't let it get in the way of this unique time in your life. Live it up - trust me, live it up.

 

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