WeaknPowerless Posted February 17, 2006 Posted February 17, 2006 I was hoping it would go away, but I have to vent. I've tried most of the day to deal with it, but it's completely messed my head up. I dream about her every night for at least a bit. I wake up and it has been no big deal lately, until last night. It was the most vivid, most realistic thing ever. I heard her voice, felt her body, held her close. We got back together in this dream. That has not happened before. Usually we are together like old times or she makes a cameo in another part of my life. But last night, we talked and we forgave and we recommitted. I've spent my entire day thinking about her. I am not sad per-say, just down. I want to see and hear her...I have such a hangover from this dream. The realism was an acute reminder of how much I loved her, how much I enjoyed holding her at night and caring for her. Jesus, I loved this woman...
Ruff Ryder Posted February 17, 2006 Posted February 17, 2006 Hi there, Look dreams are a natural thing. However modern science and psycoligy have said that you will dream about the last things you concentrate before you sllep. That is part of it. So what I would do if I was you is just change what you think about 3hrs before you go to sleep. Your thoughs controll your emotions you cant hurt if you dont think about the pain thats the theroy. Every person has the ability to change what they think at any given time you me and everone else here. So just simply dont think about it and after a certain amount of time it will fade to grey. Let me know if that helps you at all. Its all about the mind and how powerfull it really is.
Author WeaknPowerless Posted February 17, 2006 Author Posted February 17, 2006 My whole life, I've been a fan of dreaming. I would go to bed anxious to dream and "escape". Just a weird part of who I am. I've taken the dreams in stride about her. I know I'm thinking about her hourly, so I accept the fact that my sleep can be plagued with thoughts about her. I've never written about how it has affected me, simply for the fact that it has been minor compared to the rest of my issues. However, the vividness of this dream was surreal. I woke up half expecting her to be beside me, which has never been the case. I heard her voice. I felt her body. Her words registered in me. It was unreal, and the initial reaction waking up and her not being there was like breaking up all over again. Of course I'm coming along in my healing, so it didn't reduce me to what I once was, however the effects of the dream are still lingering, and reminding me of how powerful a bond I felt I had with her.
Max Overclock Posted February 17, 2006 Posted February 17, 2006 It's only a dream. Be thankful for that. It's never as good, possible, or healing in real life as it is in our dreams. Leave the past where it is. Move on. If she wasn't chanting your name, it's probably best that you forgot hers altogether.
Ruff Ryder Posted February 17, 2006 Posted February 17, 2006 Well if you look what at waht a dream is: A dream is some say the brain unwinding a dream is: what you desire a dream is: you last thoughts What i used to do is before going to sleep I took a pen and paper and wrote down what I was thinking. I dont know why I did it but it stoped the dreams that I didnt want to have. Maybe it was my mind saying "thats off your chest now" I have no clue why it worked but it did. There are many logical explinations about why if felt so real. Anything that is concentrated on with the right amount of emotion could be concived by the sub conciense as real I suppose. Look I think this is just a case of "i miss her" sysdrome. What you really need to do is just let go and accept the fact that some things arnt ment to be. As much as you would like it to happe it just cant work. There are a few laws of the universe that need to be lernt by all. The law of attraction is the one that you must focuse on. if you are happy happiness will come to you. if your negitive that will come to you. It works on a theroy that your body consists of energy and energy is ike a magnite. So stay possitive and focused start a hobbie. Me im into the gym thing have been for a while and Im loving it more now than ever. The best part is sound sick but if the ex bumped into me she would be schocked at my current form. Try new things the more acctive you are the less you will think about your ex. Good luck to you mate.
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