phyrespryte Posted February 17, 2006 Posted February 17, 2006 Well there's this foreign guy I like that I go to school with. I sent him an email asking him if he'd like to join me for coffee since we haven't seen each other in awhile. (yes email isn't as good as in person, but I rarely see him) His response was: Sure... Down for coffee... Sometimes Sunday is cool for me ? So english isn't his first language, though he speaks it fluently. I guess writing is a whole different thing. Plus he's very brief. So I responded that Sunday would be good as long as it's after 1. That was yesterday...no response yet. Should I send him another letter? I kind of feel that I would come across as very desperate. But then maybe the email never sent? This whole pursuing a guy thing...it's just not something I'm completely used to.
confusedgeek Posted February 17, 2006 Posted February 17, 2006 Good luck. Ill be watching for a happy ending. Personally, I think asking once is good enough. I would have a hard time trying to forget if a girl asked me out. That stuff just stays in my mind if a female asked me out. - ConfusedGeek
roxyg Posted February 17, 2006 Posted February 17, 2006 I wouldn't send another email, I mean, he could be busy. I don't check my email every waking minute, nor do I respond right away. Sunday is still two days away, some guys wait 'til the very last minute possible to reply, just relax, and don't worry. Like confusedgeek said, when getting asked out it stays with a person, even if it is casual.
Author phyrespryte Posted February 17, 2006 Author Posted February 17, 2006 Hey confusedgeek! Haven't seen you in awhile! On a side note you were so right about staying friends with that guy...he's one of my favorite people right now. Ok 2 people say chill out. I will chill out. It's so hard though. I'm so excited and nervous. And I don't want to mess things up. I have this horrible habit of ruining things. But thank you confused and roxy. Also it's a good point that you brought up roxy. I forget that most people aren't email freaks like I am. Most of my close friends always check so I don't notice that I'm a bit odd.
Author phyrespryte Posted February 20, 2006 Author Posted February 20, 2006 So I waited. Sunday...1pm...nothing. So I met up with a friend and got horribly drunk. Got home around 1am and though I'm all nauseous I felt the need to check my email. Yup. He sent me a letter. Around 8pm: Yo... Sorry not for getting back to you.. Had en EXTRA class today and the sh*t needed some preparation. I am down to rescheduled our coffee thing so let me know if you are up for it and if so when. I'm furious, not only because of the lack of consideration, but the tone of the letter. Yo? Sh*t? But...he is foreign... blah. So my potential response: Thanks for the heads up. This week is a b*tch for me. I'll get back to you when I have some free time. alkjsdfljasjdf; I think I need to go sleep again.
brandon Posted February 20, 2006 Posted February 20, 2006 he's not worth your time. do you really want to be playing stupid games like this forever? forget him.
Author phyrespryte Posted February 21, 2006 Author Posted February 21, 2006 he's not worth your time. do you really want to be playing stupid games like this forever? forget him. Hm. I don't really feel this is a game. I do feel that his written english is crappy. I also believe that he's trying to come across as cool. Hence "I'm down" and "yo". And isn't the whole dating process a stupid game anyways? Kind of like chess...one person makes a move then waits for the other to make a move. Anyways, I haven't written back yet. Think I'll wait till tomorrow as I'm still pissed that he took so long to respond. He actually came to class tonight, which he never does. Plus the speaker wasn't anyone impressive. Since I had to work on a project with my partner I didn't get a chance to talk to him, but he did smile and say hi to me in passing. I'm taking that as a positive sign...
Author phyrespryte Posted February 25, 2006 Author Posted February 25, 2006 So I guess last posting I was feeling optimistic... I guess you were right Brandon. I give up. More email garbage. He says, "friday after 4"? I say, "ok how about 5 at Starbucks"? 3 days no response. Send another email...are you still up for it? Give me a call here's my #. Friday...nothing. I just wish I knew what went wrong. What's wrong with me? Why does stupid stuff like this always happen? I've gone from sad to angry and back to sad. I thought that I read him right. Am I some sort of freak? I don't get it. I don't think I'm ugly. I'm a nice person. geez. It's not like I'm some hideous 700lb hairy she-man that he needs to be all evasive with. why all the weirdness? why have his friends all watching me? it's not like i'm chasing him and making him uncomfortable. blah.
Lights Posted February 25, 2006 Posted February 25, 2006 So I guess last posting I was feeling optimistic... I guess you were right Brandon. I give up. More email garbage. He says, "friday after 4"? I say, "ok how about 5 at Starbucks"? 3 days no response. Send another email...are you still up for it? Give me a call here's my #. Friday...nothing. I just wish I knew what went wrong. What's wrong with me? Why does stupid stuff like this always happen? I've gone from sad to angry and back to sad. I thought that I read him right. Am I some sort of freak? I don't get it. I don't think I'm ugly. I'm a nice person. geez. It's not like I'm some hideous 700lb hairy she-man that he needs to be all evasive with. why all the weirdness? why have his friends all watching me? it's not like i'm chasing him and making him uncomfortable. blah. Why the weirdness? Because some people just plain are weird (like the person who obviously wasted your time), not necessarily because of anything you've done. What you did is admirable, and something very few people of either gender have the social skills necessary to do. It's regrettable that it got wasted on such a person.
Author phyrespryte Posted February 26, 2006 Author Posted February 26, 2006 Why the weirdness? Because some people just plain are weird (like the person who obviously wasted your time), not necessarily because of anything you've done. What you did is admirable, and something very few people of either gender have the social skills necessary to do. It's regrettable that it got wasted on such a person. Thanks I just wish people could get their act together.
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