demonspawn Posted February 17, 2006 Posted February 17, 2006 hello all, me again, my ex and I who ive been with for 1 and a half years are meeting on sunday(we broke up about 4 days ago). I texted her to see what she was up to after a few days of NC and she just called back a day later, which was today. We had a tough talk, I really want her back because when we broke up for the first time, we didnt start from the beginning, we picked up where we left off instead and it just went down the hole(which was bad because she had something for me when we first started going out, we had great times and we clicked well, but my insecurities killed the spark and it led to a downhill relationship, which led to the first breakup). During this breakup(2nd time), i deeply realized a lot of things I should have done before that I didnt do, I guess more so due to the fact that im in love with this girl, and i just had these feelings about a month before the recent breakup. We talked about that on the fone for a while, it was tough but after talking and realizing our mistakes(and me telling her to just listen to me talk), she agreed to meet up with me in person on sunday and talk about the good/bad things we liked about eachother and PROBABLY reconciliation. The thing is, shes lost right now, I mean she has a job, but is hopping from one to another and she doesnt go to school, any pointers on how to help a situation out like this? would be greatly appreciated, thank you.
riobikini Posted February 17, 2006 Posted February 17, 2006 DS, I guess, when it gets right down to it, you have to ask how deep and how mutual the love is, -and is it real? Those are things you will start to learn, hopefully, in your meeting. Since I know only what you've posted regarding your situation, and have no info on your personalities nor how either one of you deal with stressful events in your lives, I can only tell you, generally speaking, to just make your points as clear to each other as possible, respect each other enough to really listen to what the other is saying, and don't live in denial if it doesn't look favorable in saving the partnership. Give it what you can, but don't promise what you can't. Make sure you walk away from the meeting still feeling like a human being, not a doormat, and certainly, not a fool. After that, it's a 'wait and see' situation for a while, before deciding what your next step is. Keep us posted, -and good luck! (Smile) -Rio
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