Ronen Posted February 17, 2006 Posted February 17, 2006 So, I kind of have a problem. My guy is always horney. He's constantly in "the mood," and at first, this was fun and I enjoyed that he was so into me. Now, it's getting old. When I don't feel like "doing it," he seems offended and frustrated and he's expressed to me that he shouldn't have to "beg" for it. But I feel that he should respect me, too, and not push it when I don't want to do it. Do you think that we're just not compatible? Can that happen over sex alone???
roxy_1980 Posted February 17, 2006 Posted February 17, 2006 I am personally a big fan of the matching libido theory. This theory states that although you may not always want it at the same time, you should at least prefer the same frequency of sex. If your sex drive doesn't even come near the range of his, there's gonna be problems down the road.
magda Posted February 17, 2006 Posted February 17, 2006 I agree with Roxy. If it's only a small or medium gap between your libidos, a bit of compromise from both of you should bridge it, but if he wants it a lot more than you do, it will be a recurring source of tension until forever.
I Luv the Chariot OH Posted February 17, 2006 Posted February 17, 2006 Maybe you're not sexually compatible (this is very dependent on age, especially in men, mind you), but that certainly doesn't mean you aren't compatible as a couple. Talk it over. See how important it is to him. One would hope if he loves you enough, he could respect your wishes not to all the time.
Citizen Erased Posted February 17, 2006 Posted February 17, 2006 I know that after I started working that I began to get really tired and so obviously my libido went way down. My boy was pretty annoyed but I got used to it and my libido is higher than his is now hehe
roxy_1980 Posted February 17, 2006 Posted February 17, 2006 I hate when other women start saying "If he loves me enough, he'll suppress his sexual urges indefinitely" bull. Some people have VERY high libidos for most of their lives that, well frankly, other people whose libido is not so high will never REALLY be content with. So, to have a relationship they are told that they must almost always ask permission (to the point where it's like asking a parent) just to have sex. And the person they're with feels harassed and that their partner is "piggish". Yeah, like that's even close to a healthy relationship!!! They still deep down, no matter how much society beats it out of them, want sex more often and sitting there frustrated. Finding someone in your sexual libido range is much more reasonable. Let us all remember that sex and money are the two top fights between couples. It's important, not the only thing, but still very high up there, why does society keep trying to tell us that it is not?
justagirliegirl Posted February 17, 2006 Posted February 17, 2006 I agree, if it is only a minor diference no big deal. It does seem like one partner or the other has to beg for it in some relationships. I have always had a high sex drive and my biggest fear is being with someone whose drive disappears.
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