mattea Posted February 16, 2006 Posted February 16, 2006 i'm in a new relationship, trying to take it slow and deal with some of the fears that come up for me. at the same time, my job just ended and i need to get another job and i am incredibly stressed and feeling self-doubts and fears about all the uncertainty and instability. there's a good chance i am going to get a job working for my old boss. she wants it to be me, but she isn't the only one deciding, so there's no guarentees. so all at once i'm dealing with the stress of needing money & a job and major life transitions and the fears that are coming up for me when i'm developing feelings for someone and i think maybe my feelings are moving along a bit faster than his. i feel like if i lean on him to much around this job stuff and my insecurities, he'll get overwhelmed or something. it's hard to let someone new know how insecure you feel at times. i feel like i'm just supposed to be "fun", but i feel shaky on the inside right now, so that's tough. anyone have any advice on how to handle this? how have you kept a relationship going through tough life challenges/transitions/career changes/etc? how much do you lean on someone, or just go "handle things on your own?"
a4a Posted February 16, 2006 Posted February 16, 2006 Set yourself some short term goals I mean even daily ones. Set a schedule for yourself. It is ok to let other people know you are having a tough time. Actually it is better to reveal this than to hide it as your behavior/stress will probably show through to your new found interest. As for feeling something too fast...... enjoy it, no need to shout it quite yet... post about it here. Embrace the new changes in your life and look at them as a way to do more positive things with your life. Change is good. Hang in there and vent away here if you feel the need! a4a
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