sazzya1987 Posted February 16, 2006 Posted February 16, 2006 Hello all I am new here so I would just like to say hey to you all and hope my first post doesn't make me out to sound like a nasty person I have come here to post that I have got a problem with my boyfriend who I have been with for 4 months. I feel insecure, jealous and I feel alot of the time I can't trust him. The main times is I cant trust him online, when we are together in person everything is great. He takes ages to respond while online together and its starting to really upset me and make me cry which is really silly of me to do. We have talked about it but he doesnt seem to take my feelings into consideration. I would like him to care and talk to me online. I want him to feel like he has to talk to me all the time. Maybe I am just being too selfish and evil, but I would like to get some revenge on him by making him feel this hurt I feel when he doesnt talk to me. I want him to start to worry about me when I dont respond to him. I know I shouldnt be like this but I just feel so hurt and want him to feel this pain I feel about it. I would like to have something flirty up on my MSN or something so he will talk to me and be like, is she too busy talking to other guys or something? I need pointers to see if he cares. I have talked to him more than once about how I feel about it and he still acts the same. I'm lost and hurt and don't know what else to do.
hurtbeyondwords Posted February 16, 2006 Posted February 16, 2006 I want him to feel like he has to talk to me all the time. did you read this after you wrote it? you cannot make anyone do anything. if you try you will only push them away. I suggest sitting back and looking at the situation. if you cannot trust someone then you should not be in that relationship in the first place. only when you can trust someone can you move forward. maybe he is just slow with im/email. I know at times I can take a while to respond. bottom line, chill out!
StarbrightSB Posted February 16, 2006 Posted February 16, 2006 It sounds like your hurt because its very one sided online. I hate it when it seems like i'm the only one making an effort! Its so frustrating, and i feel like if he cared he would be making an effort too. Unfortunatly though, some guys just dont like to do the online thing. Is he like that? My boyfriend hates e-mails and IM's, especially if we could rather talk on the phone. The only think i might suggst that isn't too malicious, next time your online and so is he, let him IM you first, then ignore him for a long while, preferably until he IM's you a couple more times, then say something like "oh, oops. I didnt even notice that you were online! I was having this amazing conversation with this other guy friend of mine, and i must have been too distracted too notice!" That may get him a little jealous!
hurtbeyondwords Posted February 16, 2006 Posted February 16, 2006 jealousy is not the answer! if my gf did that to me I would be pissed. stop being manipulative and just talk to him.
7on Posted February 16, 2006 Posted February 16, 2006 When I'm on the computer I'm often doing more things at once. I recently had to turn the sounds back on iChat so I would stop doing what you bf is doing. Not with any gf or anything, but anyway. Yeah so he might just be reading espn.com with the MSN Messenger notifications turned off. Or he might not even be at the computer. Or he might just not like chatting. I suggest if you really want to talk with him about something use the phone. I wouldn't really worry about the chatting issue if you guys are great in person.
Author sazzya1987 Posted February 17, 2006 Author Posted February 17, 2006 Thank you eveyone for the advice you have required me, I have talked to him more about it and we are sorting out the issue. Now when we are online together we talk on mic and cam. I phoned him up today and talked and told him I really love him which he likes to hear quite alot. He usually is just busy doing the usual manly 'computering' stuff such as games, installing 'things, ect
clandestinidad Posted February 17, 2006 Posted February 17, 2006 I'm glad youre working it out, and things are going well!! Good for the two of you to communicate!!!
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