BlahBlahQueen Posted February 16, 2006 Posted February 16, 2006 After so many threads posted about creating interest in women, can anyone please tell me how to create interest in men? I'm dying here... someone please write out a female player's guide sort of thing... (not that I'm looking to play anyone, I just need the equivalent of the male ones I've seen lying around here...)
Lishy Posted February 16, 2006 Posted February 16, 2006 This is not a female players guide but I can tell you what I do and it never fails! CONFIDENCE! Dress in something that makes you feel really good, look the best you can look .. Walk into a bar like you own the place, head high and make direct eye contact with anyone who takes your fancy. Wait until you have locked eyes and looked away a few times, then give him a little smile and turn your back on him, it creates the cat and mouse effect and men love that (even if they dont admit it) Have fun with the people you are with and make yourself look approachable ... It works every time!
StarbrightSB Posted February 16, 2006 Posted February 16, 2006 CONFIDENCE! Dress in something that makes you feel really good, look the best you can look .. Walk into a bar like you own the place, head high and make direct eye contact with anyone who takes your fancy. Wait until you have locked eyes and looked away a few times, then give him a little smile and turn your back on him, it creates the cat and mouse effect and men love that (even if they dont admit it) Have fun with the people you are with and make yourself look approachable ... It works every time! Yep, i totally aggree. I think men are all about the games! It seems lie before i was dating, i would go out looking for guys, and never found any (well interesting ones... i just got the needy desperate types!). Now that i'm not single, i go out with friends, and i dont go around looking for relationships, and i think men take notice. They see that your not falling all over them, and in their eyes, it makes for a chalenge! I say go with Lishy's response! Dress up, look hot, make eye contact, but let HIM make the first move. Good luck!
THX2000 Posted February 16, 2006 Posted February 16, 2006 Yep, i totally aggree. I think men are all about the games! It seems lie before i was dating, i would go out looking for guys, and never found any (well interesting ones... i just got the needy desperate types!). Now that i'm not single, i go out with friends, and i dont go around looking for relationships, and i think men take notice. They see that your not falling all over them, and in their eyes, it makes for a chalenge! I say go with Lishy's response! Dress up, look hot, make eye contact, but let HIM make the first move. Good luck! As a guy in the market to meet a great girl I would agree with the looking your best and being confident part of the previous advice. However, if you see a guy you are interested in I see nothing wrong with going right up and saying hello. One of the most enjoyable things I have ever had happen is a beautiful girl walk up while I was playing pool one night and say "Hi there, my name is April and I would like to buy you a beer - I am sitting over there with some friends and if you would like to sit and talk that's where I'll be. If not - have a great night!". My buddies and I were all completely floored at her boldness and of course we joined her and her friends for a few drinks. Give it a shot - you might just miss out if you don't!
Author BlahBlahQueen Posted February 18, 2006 Author Posted February 18, 2006 Grr... I ddin't mean a guide on how to approach a guy... I'm good at that. I meant how to create interest over the course of time so that they want to be more than just sex partners...
GypsyMan Posted February 18, 2006 Posted February 18, 2006 Be attentive and engaging in conversations. These will make up a lot of the simple building blocks of getting to know someone. In essence, you have to give the person attention and exchange ideas a lot. Don't make an overly conscious effort to study each other, but keep wrapping the cords of familiarity around and around. Phase in. Be around the person often. Become a person that whoever you are interested in needs. There is nothing more empowering than being needed as a daily chat post or a 'see the person everyday' sort of thing to help enrich a relationship. Know the right medium. Friends right off the bat don't talk on the phone all the time. Know what's appropriate to give the right signals. As persuasive as grabbing his wrists and slamming him against a wall and dry humping him might be - it's both awkward and a detriment to their security to be overly interested early in the game. It's often a good idea to slowly schmooze into the same social scene, or at least get to know some friends. Friends are an important link in the whole development process. And cliche moment of post - be yourself. Don't try to become what you think they'll want. I mean ... hopefully you're interesting. Gypsy.
phyrespryte Posted February 18, 2006 Posted February 18, 2006 Grr... I ddin't mean a guide on how to approach a guy... I'm good at that. I meant how to create interest over the course of time so that they want to be more than just sex partners... Heh. I was talking to my guy friend today about something similar... He said that he found women who didn't try to sleep with him early in the relationship he was more likely to stay with them longer.
Author BlahBlahQueen Posted February 18, 2006 Author Posted February 18, 2006 He said that he found women who didn't try to sleep with him early in the relationship he was more likely to stay with them longer. Hey, he made the moves, not me... I just followed suit; he was irresistible
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