agnf666 Posted February 16, 2006 Posted February 16, 2006 so, why after I tell some guy that I like him I'm upset. That is not suppose to happen... I mean he told me he liked me too... but he never said anything about ever meeting me. So, right there is where I should draw the line and just stop talking to him. I have tried to date other guys but I just can't stop thinking about him. It sucks. That is probably why my last relationship went sour... I felt better about telling him but something just tells me to move on. Now I have this other guy that likes me alot but I'm all hung up on some guy I never met... What the hell is wrong with me!!!! I think I'm just about to my breaking point with everything.
Walk Posted February 16, 2006 Posted February 16, 2006 Is this the guy you were talking about who's in the Navy? What happened to make you so upset about it? You seemed okay yesterday? You alright? I think the only thing you need to be wary of is sticking him on a pedestal. You don't know all his annoying habits, or mannerisms, so he seems better then the men you actually have to interact with. It's easy to read more into their words then what they are saying, or read the wrong meaning into it, when you can't see that person. Can you get out to see this Navy guy? Or is he deployed somewhere? I don't mean to burst your bubble, but dating a military person is incredibly hard. Even for those who have met and lived together and have memories of day to day activities shared. It's just incredibly hard. There's always so much time away, and distance that you have to over come. Can you meet him sometime soon?
Author agnf666 Posted February 16, 2006 Author Posted February 16, 2006 I think the initial reason why I'm upset is the fact that I found out he was all chummy with some girl where he is stationed out. I mean I don't really know if that is true but it looks like it... I from Pennsylvania and he is in Washington State. So, there is no chance that I can go over there and visit him. Plus he is getting ready to go on a 6 month deployment. We never mentioned anything about meeting each other. He treats me good. He compliments me and stuff... bought me something but has yet to mail it. I mean I think reality kind of hit me that we will never met and we will only have this on "Phone/email thing"... In response to me email yesterday he wrote "He likes me. He feels that I understand him a little." Then he says "If I find someone I like don't not persue it because of him"... So, what the hell does that mean?
hyakku Posted February 16, 2006 Posted February 16, 2006 I've said this to a woman online before too the, "If you meet someone don't wait for me because we are probably never going to meet." Sad thing is that she has broken up with other boyfriends and crap over me, and not dating some men, but like I said if we aren't going to meet she has to keep going and take all of her oppurtunities. Please listen to this man he's trying to help you, just date other men and if you get a chance in the future, GREAT, if not, its all good right?
Walk Posted February 16, 2006 Posted February 16, 2006 For approximately $510 (delta airlines) you can leave this Friday and be home Sunday evening. I have a couple things that you aren't going to want to hear. If he really wanted to see you, then he would've. Military get paid well, and all our housing and meals are paid for. They even have travel agents on base for Marines and Navy personal to arrange flights through. I think if he were really serious about you, then he would've made an effort to either get you out to see him, or come to see you. And the other thing you don't want to hear... all the male's are players. Big time players. Marines, Navy, Army... doesn't matter. I saw one guy outta hundreds that was actually faithful to his wife. One guy. Those aren't good odds. If you suspect he's getting chummy with some other female, then he probably is. For your own sake, stop putting him on that pedestal and making him into this Mr. Perfect image. He's an average, normal man who is still dating other woman, still attempting to get them to go back to his barracks or room. When he tells you to do the same.. he means it. Not that he doesn't like you, or think you are funny, smart and attractive... just that the dstance is too much, and our life on this earth is limited. Don't waste it pinning away for some guy who won't make the effort to even meet you. That doesn't mean the two of you don't have a chance together in the future, but right now, you don't. Go have fun now. Live in the present, and enjoy it. Keep in touch with him, and when he makes an effort toward creating more, then give him a chance. But he isn't doing that now. Which means you're putting a lot more stock in this "relationship" then he is.
Author agnf666 Posted February 18, 2006 Author Posted February 18, 2006 Thanks Walk....you really actually put me in the right frame of mind. I almost screwed up another thing for this damn navy guy... About 5 months ago, a guy found my profile on myspace and started talking to me... Well, I talked to him for a little bit but I basically was a bitch and stopped talking to him because of the navy guy... Then about a week ago the same guy messages me on myspace agian... I was completely surprised that he would becuase I was a bitch. So, I started talking to him alot in the past 2 weeks... So, I plan on meeting him in a 2 weeks. Something just tells me to go meet this guy.... This guy brings alot out a different side of me that no other guy has... So, that makes me happy. As for the Navy Guy, He would have made some effort to come see me by now... We have been talking for almost a year. He gets alot of time to bullshyt were he is... I know he is messing around with other girls... Once I found that out it kindof woke me up and made me realize that I am falling for someone that too far away... So, I will remain his friend and keep talking to him and maybe if something happens in the future then it happens... I mean his best friend that is stationed with him is actually cheating on his wife... Now, the navy guy did tell me he was afraid of commitment... That was along time ago when he told me that... Of course he is scared of commitment becuase he wants to be able to do what he wants and not have to answer to anyone. So, he is going on deployment for 6 months. so, I will only be able to talk to him through email. In which, will help my feelings for him subside alot since there will be no phone conversations.
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