Rancor13 Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 Well heres the scoop for anyone who cares to know. Yes, we are young, but I feel stongly and belive it's toatally capable to fall in love at a young age. I'm 16, my Girfriend Currently 14. We have a awsome relationship, NEVER argued at all, and things were starting to go awsome. We decided to take things to the next level, and had sex. After endgadging in sex, it was fine. She visited her moms house of Winter Break, who lives in Arizona ( We currently live in Las Vegas) She told her mom about us having intercourse, and her mom was really cool. Even got my girlfriend on the pill. Her mom guilted her to tell her dad, and she did. ( her dad lives in vegas, and my gf lives with her dad. She was visiting her mom at the time) She told her dad, and when she arrived back in Vegas things went downhill. Her dad told her she wasn't going to be doing anything of the weekends, no more boyfriend, or anything. At this age I know we should concentrate on our School, but we do. Were both straigt A students. Back to the story... as her dad exploded on her, cutting my girlfriend off from everything, my girlfriend pulled a bluff.. " What if I just live with my mom then" her dad called it, and sent her to live with her mom. Her mom is out of state, and we decided to keep things going over LDR. Things were going great, or so I thought. Then tommrow, I got e-mails from her saying she doesn't deserver me, I told her it's not what I deserve, it what I want. Then she asked me whats the most dissapointing thing she could do, and I replied " Cheating on me" ... she then bursted into tears, crying, admitted she cheated on me. I asked how, when, and where. She made out with a random guy for about a half an hour. This toatally crushed me, and she gave me the news on Valentines day. She told me this, 3 days before she is coming down to stay and visit with me too. She well be here Saturday. I'm in a bind, because I really love her so much, and I told her I will put it behind us, I just need more advice on what to say, how to feel, and should I take her back. I realize people make mistakes. I care about her to much to end our relationship like that. But I woke this morning feeling like trash. With a ache in my stomach like I'm nervous, but I know it's because of that. Well she do it again? The worst part about it, is she had a promise ring I got her, and I guess that promise is off ..... I want to go up there for college, and those are my intentions, but am I wasteing my time? Here are some thoughts as of know: Also, to add a few things, she said that it didn't mean anything, but if it didn't mean anything why would she do it? She did tell me, which was good. This incident happend 2 weeks ago. If she loved me why would she do it? She wasn't drunk.. She told me she would tell the guy face to face it ment nothing, and she regrets doing it. She did tell me she regrets. She wants to contiune dating. Also.. it's just making out, and I understand it's hard living 400 miles away. Can I trust her not to do it again? Especially since she put it on her sisters life she never would, and she had a promise ring on top of that. Those are some thoughts. Quality advice would help so much =) Thanks in advance for the help.
RubixCube28 Posted February 16, 2006 Posted February 16, 2006 Hello sorry to hear whats going on.. But you too are really young and long distance relashionships are REALLY hard ..Even for people twice your age its a verry stressing situation.. Not to be able to be around the one you care for.. I would give her a second chance but.. You too need to have a seruois talk about.. Weather or not you can keep up a long distance thing.. Best of luck to you guys..
Shyguy86 Posted February 16, 2006 Posted February 16, 2006 You are very young! A long distance relationship for a 14 and 16 year old would almost be impossible to pull off! Mainly because right now in both your lives hormones are shooting in every direction!!! I would talk to her about what happened and tell her how you really feel (which is like sh*t). Tell her you want to remain friends and keep in contact but I think it would be in both your best interests to end the relationship and start seeing other people, and most importantly be TEENAGERS!!
I Luv the Chariot OH Posted February 17, 2006 Posted February 17, 2006 Fourteen and cheating already! Wow. Without a doubt, she's not mature enough for a relationship...which is probably the last thing someone who claims to be "in love" wants to hear. If you can forgive her and want to keep trying, then by all means. But keep in mind that she's only just begun emotional (and indeed, physical) maturation, and is essentially still a child, so be wary of her promises not to cheat again.
Elyssa Posted February 19, 2006 Posted February 19, 2006 Ok I'm going to try and give you a different perspective. You two love eachother, fine, love is grand, but consider this: you're very young, why limit yourself? She lives far away from you now and you can't see her all that often. Don't you get lonely without her? So does she. She missed you and she needed somebody, and the random guy just happened to be there at the right time. Not saying what she did was right, but she might not be able to put it into words seeing how you two are fairly inexperienced. My advice? Have an open relationship. You date whoever you want, she does the same, until you get to be with eachother again. Just try to be honest with eachother about your feelings about other people and yourself. And of course, make sure the other people knows about this arrangement you have with her. Best of luck and remember creative solutions sometimes are needed for situations like this.
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