CaliGuy Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 Which one (or multiples) of you broke NC on Vagina Day?! Safe to say I didn't and I feel all the better for it. Every day I find myself thinking about her less and less and more about myself, my needs and what I want out of my life. What's important to me and what makes me happy. Isn't it great to have the reins of your life back? For you to be in control and not hand over your feelings to someone else? Now my dreams are filled with whatever projects I am working on and what makes me happy. And that's made for a lot of solid nights of sleep
a4a Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 CaliGuy..... I must confess..... but not about an ex... this is about you! I have a strong visual of you. close your eyes and imagine this (which is hard if you are trying to read this and close your eyes at the same time) CaliGuy atop a great Mountain over looking a valley below bustling with people. Skyscrapers and trains running through it. On this Mountain over looking society, he stands with his chest out, posed in a manner with his hands on his hips, one foot propped up on a large rock. He is dressed in black boots, skin hugging leotard, and a cape gently blowing in the wind behind him. A large NC on his chest which is heaving with each manly breath. (start hummming a patriotic sounding number here) He is NC MAN! Guardian of No Contact. He is the enemy of repeat heartache, defender of the dumped. HE IS THE LAST BARRIER TO STOP THE PAIN. The world is grateful, indebted, and loves NC MAN! We salute this hero. Delete that number from your cell, Do not Text, use caller ID, Block those phone calls....... NC is the right thing to do! a4a- nc is good
fallenheart45 Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 Sadly...I did. However, she texted me first....so I said it back.... :(
Author CaliGuy Posted February 15, 2006 Author Posted February 15, 2006 CaliGuy..... I must confess..... but not about an ex... this is about you! I have a strong visual of you. close your eyes and imagine this (which is hard if you are trying to read this and close your eyes at the same time) CaliGuy atop a great Mountain over looking a valley below bustling with people. Skyscrapers and trains running through it. On this Mountain over looking society, he stands with his chest out, posed in a manner with his hands on his hips, one foot propped up on a large rock. He is dressed in black boots, skin hugging leotard, and a cape gently blowing in the wind behind him. A large NC on his chest which is heaving with each manly breath. (start hummming a patriotic sounding number here) He is NC MAN! Guardian of No Contact. He is the enemy of repeat heartache, defender of the dumped. HE IS THE LAST BARRIER TO STOP THE PAIN. The world is grateful, indebted, and loves NC MAN! We salute this hero. Delete that number from your cell, Do not Text, use caller ID, Block those phone calls....... NC is the right thing to do! a4a- nc is good Haha. Thanks for the smile today I needed that! Can I have a big NC on my chest, wear tights and cape too? Ooo ooo! I want a mask too!!!!
Lishy Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 Well A4a that post cracked me up! One pretend rep point coming your way lol And to NC man - I hope the tights were not too tight - You dont wanna strangle ya winkle lol
Author CaliGuy Posted February 15, 2006 Author Posted February 15, 2006 Well A4a that post cracked me up! One pretend rep point coming your way lol And to NC man - I hope the tights were not too tight - You dont wanna strangle ya winkle lol Hey it's bad enough hiding that bad boy in jeans, just think how retarded I'd look wearing tights. Nope, can't hide it then!
cal gal Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 Okay CG - With the weather being like summertime lately your jacket is making me feel hot. You may need to upddate the avatar with a bathing suit picture ....
Author CaliGuy Posted February 15, 2006 Author Posted February 15, 2006 Then I'd have three legs. Haha! Cal Gal, no bathing suits for me. I prefer my birthday suit!
cal gal Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 Then I'd have three legs. Haha! Cal Gal, no bathing suits for me. I prefer my birthday suit! Oh God, I'm not even gonna go there..... I get myself into too much trouble as it is.... Okay so maybe just a pic without the jacket...
WeaknPowerless Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 I was surprisingly well last night. No interest in contacting her and humiliating myself. I also tried not to think about all the taboo things in my head. The problem is, is I care for her so much, that one silly holiday is nothing. Every day has the potential to be the worst in terms of missing her. It's so freaking hard retrieving myself after giving it all away to someone.
Author CaliGuy Posted February 15, 2006 Author Posted February 15, 2006 WNP, it's mind over matter, my friend. You'll have complete control over your emotions when you decide that you have had enough of giving it away to someone else. Loving and Respecting one's self precedes being able to love and respect anyone else. Remember that.
fooled Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 I did not. She did not attempt to contact me. But for me, it gets harder every day - not easier.
skeptik224 Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 I didn't contact my ex. I did think about it but realized the risks I'd be taking. It wasn't worth it when I compared the positives to the negatives.
Author CaliGuy Posted February 15, 2006 Author Posted February 15, 2006 I did not. She did not attempt to contact me. But for me, it gets harder every day - not easier. Fooled, it's hard because you live so close to her. Can you move where you won't have any contact with her?
fooled Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 Fooled, it's hard because you live so close to her. Can you move where you won't have any contact with her? My place is so cheap, I don't want to - her lease is up next month and I hope she goes. If not....I dunno. I guess I am experiencing post VD syndrome. My heart is winning over my head.
Author CaliGuy Posted February 15, 2006 Author Posted February 15, 2006 My place is so cheap, I don't want to - her lease is up next month and I hope she goes. If not....I dunno. I guess I am experiencing post VD syndrome. My heart is winning over my head. Bro, how much is your happiness worth?! If you can stick it out another month, great. But if she doesn't move out then I would consider finding another place to live. Lonestar, you evil woman
Art_Critic Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 Yes, I contacted him to ruin his day ..........
riobikini Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 How did V-day turn out? Here's my answer: Except for very brief email contact, I have not spoken to him since December 2005. I actually went down the list of people whom I truly love and who return that emotion back to me without hesitation, and I called each one of them to wish them a Happy V-day. My younger sister, Catherine, just had a heart pace-maker implantation three weeks ago, so my call was more special to her. My daughters and I exchanged chocolates, cute bears, and cards. I gave myself flowers (actually, they were for all three of us), and then we went out to a really nice dinner. The only thing I cuddled later on that night, were the red and pink bears the girls had given me....and neither one of them snored. (Smile) -Rio
Ariadne Posted February 16, 2006 Posted February 16, 2006 I didn't, I was good . Ok, but now comes one of my psychotic episodes . The guy I'm in love with has a blog, and he usually updates his blog every day or two. Well, I only contacted him only once after we stopped talking, with a three word email to tell him happy bd. Since his response was a brush off.... I went to the forum where we met and deleted every single one of my posts (I do that routinely though, but usually when I'm mad) and I didn't log in there anymore. I said, even if he doesn't care, I'm not going to let him know anything about me . Well, the thing is he didn't update his blog since the day before his bd. And that is extremelly unusual. Now, it can be that he was upset about V's day, or that the ex gf he loves wasn't paying him attention to him, or it could be that he is out of the country for all I know... But if he were up to something big he'd have posted it there even more so. Ah well... See guys? (I'm just going bananas I guess ) Sigh............... Ariadne
Ariadne Posted February 16, 2006 Posted February 16, 2006 Unrelated question, And why does my profile say "Unconfirmed Account" under it? How can I confirm the account? (got not email). And why is my Avatar disabled? And why can't I edit my posts? Help, Ariadne
Roarz Posted February 16, 2006 Posted February 16, 2006 Well, yesterday I had no desire to talk, just like any other day. Things are finally getting better for me. I still obsess a lot over her, but more often than not it's because I'm angry about how she treated me and angry at myself for letting it happen for so long after the breakup. I have small relapses every now and then where I pine for her, but they are getting less and less. I think it's not only time that fixes things, but your own evaluation of things. You have all the time in the world to think about it, but you have to come to a conclusion yourself about how it wasnt as good as you thought. We all did the best we could at the time with the situation given to us. Have to realize this before you will get better. On a strange note, just 30 mins ago I was walking to the cafeteria to get some food and passed her right outside walking behind me. I did a double take (haha, I even feel weak for doing that [a lot better than thinking about talking to her =)]) but just kept on walking without looking again after that. Can't believe she didn't say anything to or acknowledge me in any way. Ahh well, just reaffirms that she is in fact a selfish bitch. Hang in there guys =).
LNY Posted February 16, 2006 Posted February 16, 2006 I didn't break NC, I found myself wanting to call her, but then I thought to myself "what's that going to achieve?", and didn't. I did however, find myself thinking about where she was and who she was with.. and that kinda hurt.
Author CaliGuy Posted February 16, 2006 Author Posted February 16, 2006 Good job, Roarz. Hang in there my friend. LNY, good call.
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