Guest Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 I recently moved to a new state in March 2005. Since I moved I have been dating a little. Nothing has been serious. The first guy I met at a club. I approached him. He said he had no girlfriend. We went on dates and then became intimate, which I don't do unless a guy is my boyfriend. But it happened this time. He kept making hints that he really liked me. Two months went by and he still didn't ask to be my boyfriend. One day he was driving to his place and he got a phone call on his cell. He answered the call and he said, "Hello, is that the case. But I talked to you three times already. I love you." and he hung up the phone. I thought he said mom I love you, but I'm not so sure. I wanted to say something about it, but I felt like it wasn't my place, so I didn't. Anyways, we went to his house. He gave me a cup of water, that I sat by his alarm clock. When he went to set his alarm clock he spilled the water over onto the alarm clock. He said to me, "Why did you sit that there? It's broken. I had that alarm clock since highschool." I said, "I'm sorry I didn't know." He said, "That's ok, it's not your fault." I could still tell he was mad, because he got up very angrily and threw the alarm clock down the stairs. A week went by and I didn't hear from him. So I called him on Sunday. I asked him if we could see eachother he said he was tired and asked me where I was at I said I was out. As soon as I told him I was out he was like ok I'll come and get you. After that on Tuesday we started to get warning signs that hurricane rida was coming to Texas. I was barely able to receive incoming or make outgoing calls to my cell phone. But my family was finally able to call me. The entire time I was thinking about the guy I was dating why he didn't call me yet. I wanted to call him, but half of the time my phone was not working and the other half of the time I felt he's the man he should be calling me. Finally, on Saturday after they said that the hurricane wasn't coming to Houston the guy called me. He said, "I was just calling to see if you were ok. I tried to call you earlier. Where are you? I said, "I'm in Houston." He said, "I flew to Chicago. Did you call me." I Paused. He said, "You didn't call me you don't care." I said, "I do care about you, but people have a different way of showing it." He said, He said, "Well I just called to see if you were ok goodbye." And he hangs up the phone. I called him the next day, because I felt bad and deeply inside only if he knew that he was the one that I thought about the entire time during the hurricane. He returned my phone call and said if he could spend the night because his electricity is out, because of the hurricane. I told him he could. So he comes over and I finally ask him if he is mad at me. He says no. I also ask him again if he has a girlfriend. He says no, but I am thinking he is lying by the way he answered. We become intimate that night. He left that moring to go to work. I didn't hear from him almost in a week, so I decided to call him on Friday. "I said I haven't heard from you in awhile." He said angrily, "Why didn't you call me." I asked him if he wantd to go out with me and a group of friends. He said, "But we just met." I said, "I'm not trying to rush anything, just as friends." He said, "Your not trying to rush anything, just friends. Let me tell you something I've been working things out with my ex-girlfriend from Chicago that's why I haven't called you. I said, "Ok, I'm going to let you guys work things out." He said, "Your handing this very maturely." I said," I'm a let you go." And I hung up the phone. He called me a month later at 2am in the morning and left a message saying: "This is me. I'm calling to touch bases with you." I never did call him back because I felt he took so long to call and he direpected me by calling that late at night when I hadn't heard from him in a long time. Anyways he called again a month later at about 9 at night. I answered the phone. He kept saying what's up? And I kept saying nothing. I finally got mad and said, "Why are you calling me, don't you have a girlfriend?" He said, "Yea, but were still cool." I said, "That's not how it was from the last conversation we had." He said, "That's not the way that I took it." Then he said, "Well I just called to say happy holidays. You have a good night." And he hung up the phone. I haven't heard from him since. What I want to know is did I do something wrong in this relationship? Was it me? I just want to know because I feel so clueless. I don't get it. The other guys that I've dated I will discuss later after this discussion.
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