Never done this before....

[kristyk1]

Hi everyone,

Most people have done this a thousand times and probably never thought twice about it...but I'm hving such a hard time with this it's pathetic! There is a guy at my work who I'm very attracted to....I won't say "like" since we've never even spoken. We don't actually work together, just in the same building, so there isn't really opportunity to talk. Anyways, I see him every morning on my way in, and occasionally on my lunch break and after work. I want to talk to him, but I am really shy and I guess lacking confidence. I finally decided that if I want things to change I have to stop moping about it and do something...what's the worst that could happen (other than feel embarassed)?! So I don't really know how to go about this situation, since I've always been approached by guys, I've never had to approach them. I know he's seen me, we've made eye contact in passing a few times, and I have seen his friends looking at me (I hope that doesn't sound conceited...). I don't even know if he has a girlfriend, so I wanted it to be casual and friendly and see from there, and so that if he does have a gf or isn't interested, it could be seen as just being friendly. So, smile and say hi, or goodmorning or something? Guys what would you think if some girl you didn't know did that? Would you automatically assume she was attracted to you, or would you just think "oh, she's friendly?" or think nothing at all? And if a girl did that, would you be more inclined to initiate something further? Any other advice would be great! Thanks for all your help

[kristyk1]

guess no one has any advice..........

[hurtbeyondwords]

saying hello is definatly a start. is it possible to have lunch in the same place? if so ask if you can sit with him. if not, run up beside him if you are walking in/leaving and start some small talk. If you are shy then a few days of that can make it easier. If he likes you he will start doing the same. you know what to do.. grow some balls!