foolinlove Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 Hope everyone had a positive day! Mine was indeed after a weekend of sorrow for my family. A stuffed bear saying "I LOVE YOU", lunch brought to work for me and a big kiss saying i'm his valentine. What I have for him.....a warm body to curl up to and fall asleep with tonight! Any other good valentine day surprises for other OW out there?
scarletletter Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 Not so lucky here. Valentines Day is a day that I have always loved and wanted to make it special for the special person in my life. My valentines day will not be celebrated until later in the week and I'm okay with that. I can pretend that every day is valentines day when I get to be with the one I love, which is not often enough.
lolax Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 Hope everyone had a positive day! Mine was indeed after a weekend of sorrow for my family. A stuffed bear saying "I LOVE YOU", lunch brought to work for me and a big kiss saying i'm his valentine. What I have for him.....a warm body to curl up to and fall asleep with tonight! Any other good valentine day surprises for other OW out there? im happy for you..bet that made you feel all warm inside! sometimes not such a good day for us other women !! i got a laptop...what the hell does that mean???
scarletletter Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 better that what I got...an E-CARD!!!!! and a nice phone call!! I will get my real valentine on friday when I get to see him! But it sure makes today a bummer!
Author foolinlove Posted February 15, 2006 Author Posted February 15, 2006 i got a laptop...what the hell does that mean??? Hell a laptop.....not bad for a Hallmark holiday!!! Maybe its a way to keep in touch with him.....IM'ing etc....
Author foolinlove Posted February 15, 2006 Author Posted February 15, 2006 My plans fell thru as far as my gift to him.... we decided it wouldn't be such a wise idea to have me stay the night on V-day, perhaps BS would be waiting for an opportunity like that to bust us....oh well..hopefully have a go another time....its been a WHILE since we were intimate...and i'm NEEDING some TLC!! Hope everyone is feeling loved...even if they can't be with their loved one.
lolax Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 My plans fell thru as far as my gift to him.... we decided it wouldn't be such a wise idea to have me stay the night on V-day, perhaps BS would be waiting for an opportunity like that to bust us....oh well..hopefully have a go another time....its been a WHILE since we were intimate...and i'm NEEDING some TLC!! Hope everyone is feeling loved...even if they can't be with their loved one. fool in love would like to know your story x
kpin124 Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 well i got 2 hours of the most increddible sex that i think i have ever had with my mm...... then afterwards we both layed there and both said that we felt very guilty about meeting on v-day however why should i feel more guilty about it being v-day cheating is cheating no matter what day it is on and that is what i told him and he agreed! i wasn't going to meet him on v-day i had done decided that and then he ended up talking me into it.... why does he have that affect on me ?? anyone else like that they will have there mind made up and then mm will talk them into it???
Author foolinlove Posted February 15, 2006 Author Posted February 15, 2006 fool in love would like to know your story x Story is: MM and I have been involved for YEARS. W found out around 4 years ago. She was crushed, stayed with him, wanted to work on things. He moved out for about 3 weeks, then went back. He was uncertain about us, because I was only graduating from college and didn't know where or what I was doing. We continued to see each other when I came home, found a job, told him, I want to be with him. He felt the same, but at the same time guilty for he is older than I. It took him a year to move out into his own place after I came home, he was out for 10 months. He went back again for 3, (he says "the biggest mistake he ever made"). I told him I couldn't give my love to someone who could not return it 100% and told him I was DONE. Weeks later he moved out again for the 3rd time. He has been moved out since fall. This time around he has done everything different, doesn't go to her home, (like he did the second time), doesn't push me away when he gets upset with life, trys very hard to keep me informed without telling me too much. Part of me feels like he is ready to move on with his life and do what is good for him, others I feel like i'm waiting for him to go back. I'm very suspicious of their relationship, very insecure....even tho he says I have no reason to be. They have one adopted daughter he keeps in touch with and trys to be there for. It is all very stressful for him, yet he and I cannot be without one and other. We are in love, have been for years. We keep our R, very low profile, as to not rub it in her face. I really don't know what will happen between the two of us.....some days i'm confident, others i'm insecure. I have troubles trusting him over a few issues in the past and its straining our R. Today is not a good day, if I decided to answer this question on another day, perhaps i would be more positive. thats my story.
Sami_D Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 I got a card. His W got him nothing, didn't even mention what day it was. That was mutual from him. He's coming to see me tomorrow, which will be the first time we've seen each other for 70 days (yes, I am counting!). First time he's ever visited my home. First time he's lied to his W about where he's going to be. He's pretending he's going to some work meeting. I don't like him lying... I hope he's going to get this whole thing sorted out soon because I HATE being the OW.
scarletletter Posted February 16, 2006 Posted February 16, 2006 I got a card. His W got him nothing, didn't even mention what day it was. That was mutual from him. He's coming to see me tomorrow, which will be the first time we've seen each other for 70 days (yes, I am counting!). First time he's ever visited my home. First time he's lied to his W about where he's going to be. He's pretending he's going to some work meeting. I don't like him lying... I hope he's going to get this whole thing sorted out soon because I HATE being the OW. I totally can relate to this...sounds like my exact situation EXCEPT my day is friday and I do see him once or twice a week.
Walking away Posted February 16, 2006 Posted February 16, 2006 Even though I told my MM I am done with the relationship due to the pain and suffering...I got a HUGE bouquet of my favorite flowers delivered to my home yesterday from him. Also got a card, candles, pistachios, a bottle of wine......He is also flying out here in an attempt to see me this weekend....
Sami_D Posted February 19, 2006 Posted February 19, 2006 Even though I told my MM I am done with the relationship due to the pain and suffering...I got a HUGE bouquet of my favorite flowers delivered to my home yesterday from him. Also got a card, candles, pistachios, a bottle of wine......He is also flying out here in an attempt to see me this weekend.... How do you feel about that..? Sucked back in? Thinking he thinks he can buy you off with flowers and gifts..? Tell him that you're through with it UNLESS he leaves
9Lives Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 For Valentine's Day, He came over about 5 am. We did the fun thing and then he gave me a ring. Not a engagement ring but a nice little ring. I really did not like the ring because the diamonds were too small but I guess I should have been happy I got something. I just did not like it much. He tried I guess.
Sami_D Posted February 24, 2006 Posted February 24, 2006 For Valentine's Day, He came over about 5 am. We did the fun thing and then he gave me a ring. Not a engagement ring but a nice little ring. I really did not like the ring because the diamonds were too small but I guess I should have been happy I got something. I just did not like it much. He tried I guess. If he's a Married Man, then an engagement ring might have been somewhat surprising..?
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