Guest Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 About a month and a half ago, the girl I was seeing for two years said she was feeling overwhelmed by a number of things in her life and said she needed some space. Part of the overwhelming stuff was me being over at her place more than I should have. We talked and I said that if she needed space, then fine, take it. She gave me a voicemail about 4 days later saying that she thought about what she said, about me, about us, but for right now, this was the right thing for her. She said she still loved me and cared for me and was thinking about me, but needed to go through this phase. She said this was hurting her as well. In this space of time, I have respected her wishes and have not called her. She has, however, emailed me a few times saying that she was thinking about me and that I looked good (I was dressing up more and had lost some weight). She also asked me once out to lunch (not a big deal, but she could've avoided me). And when she missed me at work one day (I left early), she voice-mailed me just to say hi and to touch base and see what I was up to. I've maintained a friendly, non-pushy contact with her so she knows I'm around. I sent her a non-romantic, but very nice Valentine's Day card saying that I believed in her, supported her and cared for her. She sent me one before she went on a business trip and it had hearts on it and said stuff like "Even though the words go unspoken, the love is always in my heart." She said she was thinking of me and sending me hugs. Are these things indications that she doesn't want to lose me and that I should just keep doing what I'm doing? She just hit 40 and I would think that if she really wanted to cut the cord, she would have been mature enough to do it already. I've got no problem waiting, but am I waiting for nothing or are these signs that she has issues to work out, but stick around because I don't want to lose you? She knows how I feel about her and I have to think that she knows I've been respecting her request because she matters to me. Like I said, I've been living my own life, going away on weekends (to which she came into to my office once to see what I was doing that weekend). I just would like to know if I'm overanalyzing things and should feel good about the "signals" she's been sending or is she just keeping me on the sidelines. Any thoughts would be appreciated. I'm tired of thinking about it.
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