Author basscatcher Posted February 15, 2006 Author Posted February 15, 2006 i know, i'm sorry PADA maybe you can change you avatar to show your hand giving everyone the finger while you have your ring on You would like that wouldnt you? Would you like for me to put your name in black marker inder my index finger too? U R so charming:love:
whichwayisup Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 i know, i'm sorry PADA maybe you can change you avatar to show your hand giving everyone the finger while you have your ring on alpha! I kinda agree with A_C here. who cares about the cost of the ring. It was his way of telling you how he feels about you as he isn't one to say it outloud, or show it in affection. This seems to be the only way he knows how. So don't put a price tag on it.
alphamale Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 It is the meaning that matters not the cost... Stop anyalizing the cost of the ring Pada.. ahh no, A_C, I beg to differ. The cost matters most to women even though the will say it is the "meaning". Generally in the female mind there is a high co-relation between the "meaning" and the "cost". When my buddy Mike got engaged back in 1999 he could only spend $2,000 on a ring for this wife-to-be. This was totally unacceptable to her. She wanted a $6,000 ring. So they both went to the jewelry store together and she paid $4,000 and he paid $2,000. But then again....she does earn double what he does. Yeah, so they got married in 2000 and yes, you guessed it, he's totally hen-pecked.
blind_otter Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 Who cares what it is worth.. you guys have been going out 4 months.. not 4 years.. I wouldn't spend 10k on a ring for someone I don't really know all that well yet..and i doubt he would either It is the meaning that matters not the cost... Stop anyalizing the cost of the ring Pada.. as per the usual, I must say "word" to this post. This is what I was thinking, but didn't know how to say. If this is about his nebulous, unnamed feelings which may be love - the cost etc. shouldn't matter. It's after you split up and pawn your engagement ring and find out it's worth half what your exH told you when you can get pissed (yes this happened to me).
Author basscatcher Posted February 15, 2006 Author Posted February 15, 2006 Who cares what it is worth.. you guys have been going out 4 months.. not 4 years.. I wouldn't spend 10k on a ring for someone I don't really know all that well yet..and i doubt he would either It is the meaning that matters not the cost... Stop anyalizing the cost of the ring Pada.. My mother has made a huge deal out of its value.. She is instructing me what not to do with it. She's telling me to not wear it unless I'm gong out someplace special, etc etc. I think the more something is worth the more careful you outta be. Do ya think? I am use to cheap costume jewelry.. This is totally new to me so I need to investigate a bit.. Its also in my nature. I discovered today that the sapphire is one of the most durable stones next to a Diamond. Its things like this that I find interesting. I looked up names of different cuts. I didn't know this either... I am very green to jewelry stuff. I am rough on jewelry that is why I dont have much or wear much of it.. I tend to snag and break it. Too much country not enough lady I guess.
l2hvn Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 ahh no, A_C, I beg to differ. The cost matters most to women even though the will say it is the "meaning". Generally in the female mind there is a high co-relation between the "meaning" and the "cost". When my buddy Mike got engaged back in 1999 he could only spend $2,000 on a ring for this wife-to-be. This was totally unacceptable to her. She wanted a $6,000 ring. So they both went to the jewelry store together and she paid $4,000 and he paid $2,000. But then again....she does earn double what he does. Yeah, so they got married in 2000 and yes, you guessed it, he's totally hen-pecked. You're talking about engagement rings here, not a "just because" ring. It's totally different. Of course a lot of women would want to have a big diamond ring on their finger to show it off. But in Pada's case, it's different. Besides, he didn't need to buy her any ring, but he did anyways. That's what matters.
Art_Critic Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 A wedding ring is different Alpha.. All women should have a 10-20k wedding ring ( my own personal viewpoint ) I spent a good bit over 10k for my exwifes ring. But with a wedding ring she has to wear it the rest of her life so cost matters. The ring that Pada has has more of a friendship ring kinda thing..
whichwayisup Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 Not ALL women are like that alpha. I can honestly say I wouldn't care if my hubby bought me a cheaper version of jewellery. I'm not a big jewellery wearer anyway. I have a necklace I've had since I was 16 (my dad gave it to me, so now it means even more to me as he's not alive anymore) and I have afew rings. One I wear all the time, the other only special occasions.
Art_Critic Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 It's after you split up and pawn your engagement ring and find out it's worth half what your exH told you when you can get pissed (yes this happened to me). ...... ouch
hotgurl Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 actually I kinda agree with Alpha. But it depends on how it was presented. My ex got me a diamond engagement ring. Made a big deal about how it was real and so expensive. So I took it to get it insured the ****er got me cz ring. It's petty but now I have had all my gifted jewlry appriased.
Art_Critic Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 So I took it to get it insured the ****er got me cz ring. It's petty but now I have had all my gifted jewlry appriased. A good Jewlery store should provide the appraisal at the time of purchase for insurance purposes..
l2hvn Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 actually I kinda agree with Alpha. But it depends on how it was presented. My ex got me a diamond engagement ring. Made a big deal about how it was real and so expensive. So I took it to get it insured the ****er got me cz ring. It's petty but now I have had all my gifted jewlry appriased. Yikes!!! That was pretty effed up. All engagement rings are supposed to have certificates. If you didn't get any, then he didn't get it from a reputable source, or he knew he bought you a cubic zirconia.
hotgurl Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 A good Jewlery store should provide the appraisal at the time of purchase for insurance purposes.. well apparently you can't get appraisals on qvc (which is wear he bought all my "expensive" jewelry) what did I expect from a guy who gave me slim fast for x-mas.
l2hvn Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 well apparently you can't get appraisals on qvc (which is wear he bought all my "expensive" jewelry) what did I expect from a guy who gave me slim fast for x-mas. OMG! I have to crack up. i'm sorry.....
hotgurl Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 OMG! I have to crack up. i'm sorry..... no it's ok it funny now. He was such a tool best thing I did was to leave him.
witabix Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 What a bunch of mercenaries!!!!! You can have the words "I" and "you" for $5. The word "love" will cost you $10,000, baloney!!! So sweetheart, that'll be $10,010 pleae, yes a cheque is fine. Tell me Pada, what would you, or anyone else for that matter, want more. A $1,000,000 gift, or for someone who REALLY means it to say "I love you", and then for them to still be able to say and mean it twenty years from now? Loveshack? Or Pawnshack? *Sings* The Pawnshack is a little place where we can get it valued.......
witabix Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 Slim fast?? Oh man, that's bad...lol. Owwwwww! Cringe!
Author basscatcher Posted February 15, 2006 Author Posted February 15, 2006 I didn't even spend $2,000 when I got married the first time. I surely dont plan to spend even that the second time (if there is one). I want a quiet, private ceremony, with only either our people witnessing or just our immediate families-children, parents, grandparents.. that is it.... I never had a honeymood really so that is one I want.. I"ll exchange the cost of wedding for the honeymoon... As for rings, I never expected a peice of Jewelry. To me jewelry is a personal gift even if it is out of friendship. It is something that lasts. Seriously alpha ; NOT ALL WOMEN are about $$$... my mother made a big deal out of it and said it wasn't cheap. She saw it live on webcam as did my gf. I know he had to have paid more then I did for his Titanium ring. Even if the sapphire is lab-created and if the diamonds aren't real or huge. The band is 10kt gold (redgold). It doesn't matter. I think it is absolutely beautiful and I love it.. I'm just worried about ruining it. I got three slips with the ring. the gift reciept part, the extended service plan and the lifetime diamond and color gemstone guarentee.. I am flattered and in awe and happy and humbled, and overjoyed. It is so pretty to look at. the blue is the center sapphire reflects light so nicely. It reminds me of royality.. It's not a black blue its like a royal blue. Its deep.
hotgurl Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 oh come on witabix it nice to be spoiled every now and then. Plus Pada never brought up the cost of the ring someone else did. i think she is just thrilled to have gotten it. But I beleieve one of the issues in thier relationship it that he hasn't/can't say I love you. ps. In my situation I was more mad that I was lied to.
Author basscatcher Posted February 15, 2006 Author Posted February 15, 2006 Tell me Pada, what would you, or anyone else for that matter, want more. ....... The latter........ :love: I want u 2 luv me 4ever:love: I want someone to tell me they love me from their heart wholely and treat me the way I should be treated because of that love and still love me that way if not more 20 yrs and more later...... I come from nothing so I dont need nothing when it comes to material... I can live off what I have. But as for LOVE I cannot live without it..
hotgurl Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 pada if you take your ring to a jeweler thay can tell you how to take care of it and store it and what cleaners to use etc.. I would fill out the warrenty esp. if you are hard on your rings.
witabix Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 oh come on witabix it nice to be spoiled every now and then. Plus Pada never brought up the cost of the ring someone else did. i think she is just thrilled to have gotten it. But I beleieve one of the issues in thier relationship it that he hasn't/can't say I love you. ps. In my situation I was more mad that I was lied to. Oh yeah hotgurl, I know Pada didn't bring it up, I certainly wasn't having a go at Pada, or anyone else. It's nice to be spoiled, agreed, whats even nicer is being able to spoil. I pick jewelry that I think will compliment a girls 'look', I have a friend who makes jewlelry, so I don't use High Street shops, I prefer one off handmade pieces. Its expensive, and I don't have much money, but I still stretch and go for it. Its so worth it. To see that look, shock, happiness, etc. And if we split up, what the hell, at least she has something she will never see another woman wearing.
Author basscatcher Posted February 15, 2006 Author Posted February 15, 2006 pada if you take your ring to a jeweler thay can tell you how to take care of it and store it and what cleaners to use etc.. I would fill out the warrenty esp. if you are hard on your rings. The warranty is already in place. Charlie took care of that. I also registered for the $1,000 drawing giveaway. The store is giving away 5 of them. They said the last 9 give aways have all been in the Twin Cities area.. The store printed the warrenty number on the slip so I just have to keep it in safe keeping along with Charlies warranties for his ring.. Interesting how we both did rings.. and at 4 months... He said we think alike, share the same morals and values. I see that more and more....
hotgurl Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 Oh yeah hotgurl, I know Pada didn't bring it up, I certainly wasn't having a go at Pada, or anyone else. It's nice to be spoiled, agreed, whats even nicer is being able to spoil. I pick jewelry that I think will compliment a girls 'look', I have a friend who makes jewlelry, so I don't use High Street shops, I prefer one off handmade pieces. Its expensive, and I don't have much money, but I still stretch and go for it. Its so worth it. To see that look, shock, happiness, etc. And if we split up, what the hell, at least she has something she will never see another woman wearing. I realize that my tone might not have come across it was in more of a light hearted fashion. My current BF has given me expensive jewlry and costume jewlry and I love everthing he has given me because he really takes my tastes into consideration.
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