Author basscatcher Posted February 15, 2006 Author Posted February 15, 2006 Pada - congrats on the ring! Hey - is this the same guy you met a while back - who you weren't attracted to at first, but you gave it a few dates and than BAM! it hit you? If so - aren't u glad you gave him a chance?? Congrats! K. Yep that is my sweetie. Same man. He is truly wonderful.. Those blue eyes and that smile of his just melts me. He has the cutest butt and I love his sense of taste and style.
blind_otter Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 For curiosity's sake - when is it good to make up excuses? Also, I think people allow their emotions to be toyed with, for whatever reason. I won't blame my abusive relationships on the abusers. They deal with their own issues. My question is - why did I allow someone else to control/hurt me so much? Same for charlie. I got engaged last year. I don't talk about it. It ended badly. I was open with my ex-fiancee (I posted on here about the Scotsman in "Hi, my name is Otter and I'm insecurrrr (Not sure the # of Rs)" but ultimately, it failed because I didn't take the time to completely process and very draining and traumatic relationship prior to meeting him.
alphamale Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 (I posted on here about the Scotsman in "Hi, my name is Otter and I'm insecurrrr (Not sure the # of Rs)" . yes i distinctly remember that thread. its was excellent.
Mz. Pixie Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 Pad, It's beautiful. I'm so happy that someone is treating you well.
Lishy Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 Congrats Pad - I can hear the breathlesness and excitement in your words! I am glad you are happy, take no notice of these pessemistic men lol
Author basscatcher Posted February 15, 2006 Author Posted February 15, 2006 For curiosity's sake - when is it good to make up excuses? Also, I think people allow their emotions to be toyed with, for whatever reason. I won't blame my abusive relationships on the abusers. They deal with their own issues. My question is - why did I allow someone else to control/hurt me so much? Same for charlie. I got engaged last year. I don't talk about it. It ended badly. I was open with my ex-fiancee (I posted on here about the Scotsman in "Hi, my name is Otter and I'm insecurrrr (Not sure the # of Rs)" but ultimately, it failed because I didn't take the time to completely process and very draining and traumatic relationship prior to meeting him. I think when people are going through difficult situations it is good to be aware of the circumstances which got that person where they are at. When people point out I am making up excuses for Charlie-I am putting up things I know about his situation; therefore, I can see and others can see where he is coming from and where he is at. I know Charlie hasn't had a lot of time to process his break up with his X. I understand there are going to be times when he will act weird, distant, aloof. I expect that. If I was in his shoes (again) I would hope that the person I was with understood. If Charlie needs space I will give it to him. He is the one who has made all the moves. I have allowed him to be the initiater. He is the one who suggests when to come over, get together or go out to eat. He initiates 98% of the phone calls. He wants me to pick where we are going. I have merged from one relationship right into another one before (it lasted 4 1/2 yrs). I spoke to my Psychologist about it at one time and she told me that some people go through withrawls while still physically involved. They detach emotionally but havent made the physical seperation. When the physical seperation happens they go through mostly physical dependancy withdrawals. I see some of this in Charlie. He calls me every day just to say hi, to see how I am doing and to feel that connection.. I know there are trials to come down the road and I want to face them when they come. I don't run from challenges. I am understanding and want to know where people come from, what they have endured and been faced with in life. It makes it easier for me to understand the person I am dealing with. Especially those whom I am close too. Charlie is responsible for what he choses and how he reacts and acts. Also, for me to understand where he is coming from helps to understand why he is the way he is. I chose to cope and allow this transition because he needs to continue it. Just because he and I are involved doesn't mean he still doesn't have some of the past to move out of.. I myself have been reminded of some things from my last serious relationship which ended over a year ago. Everyone has their own pace.
SmoochieFace Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 ...take no notice of these pessemistic men lol In other words, ignore reality. Yeah, that's really good *advice* there, Lishy. Then again, we seem to be living in a society that prides itself on its ability to be in denial about reality. Love is oh so BLIND, isn't it?
Author basscatcher Posted February 15, 2006 Author Posted February 15, 2006 . Then again, we seem to be living in a society that prides itself on its ability to be in denial about reality. Love is oh so BLIND, isn't it? Love is blind... Also, I do live in reality. I am very aware of what is and what could and what can be. I have my experiences in life. I have done my share of research on relationships. I am very relatinship oriented and I am not stupid or very nieve when it comes to understanding abuse, greif, sorrow, dissappointment, healing or any kind of dysfunction. I have a past that has involved so much dysfunction but it has been counteracted with counceling, support groups, education as well as my religious beliefs. I am NOT that NIEVE.. Sometimes I have roadblocks and I may struggle with facing what is staring at me. I am human and to be human is to ERR.
witabix Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 Well I still think its sweet. I can be pessimistic and I'm a guy. You love him, he behaves in this way, his actions are saying at the very least I think of you, at the very least. The reality checks being offered on this thread are IMO not necessary. Pada is not a schoolgirl, I think not anyway. Listen Pada, have you ever been eating a chocolate and had people say "they are bad for you", well they maybe right, but it still tastes good doesn't it. Be happy, its cool.
cal gal Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 Well I still think its sweet. You love him, he behaves in this way, his actions are saying at the very least I think of you, at the very least. The reality checks being offered on this thread are IMO not necessary. Pada is not a schoolgirl, I think not anyway. Listen Pada, have you ever been eating a chocolate and had people say "they are bad for you", well they maybe right, but it still tastes good doesn't it. Be happy, its cool. I agree with you Wit What is in the avatar - if I may ask? Something is in the brain but I can't tell what it might be??????
witabix Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 What is in the avatar - if I may ask? Something is in the brain but I can't tell what it might be?????? Yes, neither can I, my brain surgeon said the same thing, "Something is in this man's skull but I can't tell what it might be??????" "Well, we'll just put the mouse back on the wheel then...." And I have been fine ever since.
Author basscatcher Posted February 15, 2006 Author Posted February 15, 2006 Yes, neither can I, my brain surgeon said the same thing, "Something is in this man's skull but I can't tell what it might be??????" "Well, we'll just put the mouse back on the wheel then...." And I have been fine ever since. Checking out your love meter.. Is Love a feeling, Is it chice, Is it a thought, Is it something chemical, Is it spiritual.... Answer: all of the above!
cal gal Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 A love meter? Looks to me like his brain might be into S & M.
witabix Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 And somtimes Pada, sometimes a ring can be a representation of love.
Author basscatcher Posted February 15, 2006 Author Posted February 15, 2006 Thanks WIX, My mom has a ring similiar to mine. She said hers cost over $500. So this ring I don't think is cheap... Mine is a bit bigger. IMO- -If I didn't love the person I was buying an expensive ring for then why should I invest my hard earned money on someone whom I didn't have strong feelings for. His body language and his reactions to my reactions were priceless. He was proud to give me the ring. He was all smiles about it, commented about it on my finger. Kept looking at it with sweet smiles on his face. He would look me in the eyes and smile then look at my hand... He teased me about it being big and that he said I needed something big and nice on my finger... He is a subtle man in his persona but a large man in his actions.
witabix Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 Then you just enjoy this man Pada, he sounds ok, my gf is slightly similar, finds it hard to be as romantic as she wants to be. But she is definately progressing, coming more towards me. I am romantic enough for two anyway, I love being romantic. Love can be a rollercoaster ride, and I love it. I know many people come crashing down, and its because they don't plan it all out beforehand, but thats in the nature of life. You must enjoy the sunshine while it is there. As unpopular as it may be here, I do believe love conquers all. Thats not the first time I have posted that sentiment on here, and I hope it isn't the last. Witabix, the Last of the Romantics?
Author basscatcher Posted February 15, 2006 Author Posted February 15, 2006 Then you just enjoy this man Pada, he sounds ok, my gf is slightly similar, finds it hard to be as romantic as she wants to be. But she is definately progressing, coming more towards me. I am romantic enough for two anyway, I love being romantic. Love can be a rollercoaster ride, and I love it. I know many people come crashing down, and its because they don't plan it all out beforehand, but thats in the nature of life. You must enjoy the sunshine while it is there. As unpopular as it may be here, I do believe love conquers all. Thats not the first time I have posted that sentiment on here, and I hope it isn't the last. Witabix, the Last of the Romantics? Totally AGREED.. I don't think there is anything I have read of yours I really disagree with.. You are right on target and don't change.. You are a gem Wix..
Nur Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 You said you've been seeing him four months, Pada? Well, personally, I'd be a little freaked out if someone told me they love me before four months... love is a big thing to admit to someone. Be glad he doesn't throw words around lightly. When he does tell you, you know he'll mean it. I still remember the way my heart was racing the first time I told my boyfriend I loved him... it must have been four, five months into our relationship.
l2hvn Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 That's a nice ring. That's very sweet of him to do. I can tell how elated you are. Shoot, I would too! Nice gesture on his part since he knew you would be ecstatic about it. I don't know anything about jewelery. The brocchures say it has a lifetime Diamond and Color Gemstone Guarantee, Mounting Guarantee, Diamond Trade-In Policy, Free Lifetime Claning and Inspections, it has a Extended Service Plan. The Desc: 10KY Created Sapphire RG R-PODHRNB S-PODHAEB P-PODHAEB I have no idea what all that means. What I do know is it is beautiful and I am in utter awe that he invested in this for me for Valentines Day at 4 months... What it means is that it guarantees that the sapphire and diamonds are real; they can inspect the mounting of your ring, which is recommended in case it wears off from regular use so you won't lose the sapphire. I think the diamond trade-in is only for diamond rings... I'm not sure what that RG is for, red gold maybe? I doubt it.... I used to work in jewelry when I was in college. I know my four C's very well (carat, cut, clarity, color). For my birthday, I bought myself a lab-created pink sapphire ring, 3.5 carats. 10K white gold.. It was gorgeous! It didn't cost me that much, believe it or not. Didn't even break $150. But then again, I got it on sale. Lab-created gemstones are a lot less expensive since the stone is not naturally found, it is man-made. It shows you what a high-quality gemstone is supposed to look like, for a lot less money. Anyways, it's the thought that counts the most. And I'm glad you found someone who makes you happy.
Author basscatcher Posted February 15, 2006 Author Posted February 15, 2006 12HVN- So the sapphires are lab-created? I don't understand all this jargon below: 10KY Created Sapphire RG R-PODHRNB S-PODHAEB P-PODHAEB I'm guessing the gold band is 10k? Created Sapphire--does this mean lab-created? Whats the: R- PODHRNB S- PODJAEB P- PODHAEB This info was printed on the warrenty with the date of purchase and Charlies name etc. etc.
alphamale Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 12HVN- So the sapphires are lab-created? I don't understand all this jargon below: 10KY Created Sapphire RG R-PODHRNB S-PODHAEB P-PODHAEB I'm guessing the gold band is 10k? Created Sapphire--does this mean lab-created? Whats the: R- PODHRNB S- PODJAEB P- PODHAEB This info was printed on the warrenty with the date of purchase and Charlies name etc. etc. it means its probably worth $80
l2hvn Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 12HVN- So the sapphires are lab-created? I don't understand all this jargon below: 10KY Created Sapphire RG R-PODHRNB S-PODHAEB P-PODHAEB I'm guessing the gold band is 10k? Created Sapphire--does this mean lab-created? Whats the: R- PODHRNB S- PODJAEB P- PODHAEB This info was printed on the warrenty with the date of purchase and Charlies name etc. etc. Yes, it is lab-created. 10 karat. RG could be red gold. I don't know what those initials/acronyms are for. Check with the store he purchased it from. He has his info in there because he was the one who purchased it.... Although where I used to work, we would advise the giver to leave it blank so the recipient could fill out the information themselves --- it shows that they are the owner of the jewelry + certificate/warranty... It depends on every store I suppose. Like I said, check with the store.
Author basscatcher Posted February 15, 2006 Author Posted February 15, 2006 it means its probably worth $80 Alpha- u can b such a boob sometimes..
alphamale Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 Alpha- u can b such a boob sometimes.. i know, i'm sorry PADA maybe you can change you avatar to show your hand giving everyone the finger while you have your ring on
Art_Critic Posted February 15, 2006 Posted February 15, 2006 Who cares what it is worth.. you guys have been going out 4 months.. not 4 years.. I wouldn't spend 10k on a ring for someone I don't really know all that well yet..and i doubt he would either It is the meaning that matters not the cost... Stop anyalizing the cost of the ring Pada..
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