Zeppelin456 Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 I hate these unavoidable problems...my friend just gave me a call and started talking about my ex and how she's changed and yadda yadda yadda...I've been really trying hard to get over her (3 weeks NC right now) and I really just find this impossible. We share all of the same friends from home (we attend different schools, luckily) and these have been both of our friends for a very long time. I can't just not hang out with them and I can't go get a whole bunch of new friends and yet, whenever someone mentions my ex, I get depressed and it sends me into a minor tailspin. I guess I don't really know what I'm asking for, I'm just saying, it's frustrating when I can't avoid my ex's shadow. We'll likely end up friends someday because we have so much in common, both personality-wise and with friends, but that can't happen until I'm REALLY over her and am happy with myself, which I am not. What can I do until then?!
will_d Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 Hey Zepplin456, I dont envy u your position but it will make u all the stronger for having to deal with it. The only thing i can think of is for u to tell your friends individually that u dont want to make them think before talking to u, but that your finding this break-up hard to deal with. u could do with them understanding that... u would appreciate it if they would try not to bring her up as often as they do. I know this would hard to do for u, and that u dont want to put people on edge, but if their your friends then they should be ok about it, they just need to know that it doesnt help talking about her in depth at the moment. In time things will be ok, but for now u need to feel that they represent time to escape from thinking about her.
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