caring guy Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 Hi all I guess some in the past have read into my tendancys to rush into relationships once an initial meeting has taken place & attraction mostly on my behalf. The situation i had with my 4 day fling, how i met this girl & 4 days later we's been to be, booked trip to her country & done everyhing you wold expect in a much longer time. Well thats over, she's living hundreds of miles away & working away! A mistake she says she made, lead me on, gave me hope, it was recipracal. Well now, i've met girl off the net, she lives local & is 10 years my junior. We get on well, chatted online, & yesterday met & had coffee, we made each other laugh & said we would do it again. We flirted, she showed me her tattoo, which i thought was a sign of her being forward, it was touchy, she laughed a lot, we had a nice couple of hours, have lots in common, sports etc, but i know i should leave any initiation of hand holding, to nature! We chatted last night on msn & i appologised for the peck on the cheak i spontaneously gave her, as i thought after "here i go again" trying to get it on stamped sealed & delivered too fast! She ssaid it was nice & sweet! I'm just a naturally complimentary, charming person, but sometimes don't know my limits! We flirted online, talked of what we thought of each other & are doing it again soon. I just don't know wether to instigate the 1st move as i'm older, wait for a "right time" that nature will bring, being that it won't be 1 sided or just carry on doing our interests & therefor make her think i'm not up for takings further, gaining her trust as she's had guys using her for sex & is a bit in doubt initially. I said i'd been hurt too, we like each other, i'm just terrible at signal reading, unless it's blatant! Anyone
SuperMonk Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 Stop being a Nice Guy. Sounds like 'friends hell' for you.
Cecelius Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 I agree. Not to be crass, but at this [these] stages, there is no "relationship" and getting a girl is just a numbers game -- you have to try, and there is little downside because you cannot possibly have much if anything invested yet. Don't apologize for kissing her on the cheek -- a girl who shows you her tatoo is looking for some attention. Have fun, take it easy (or fake it) and you'll do okay.
Author caring guy Posted February 14, 2006 Author Posted February 14, 2006 Don't get the friends hell thing. I seem to be either a nice guy or someone that pushes it by making it work too soon. She wants a LTR, but has had bad experiences & i said i had too & we got together, we flirted a little again tonight & we got on well, i just read stuff & think "is she saying & meaning that". Yeah, we're goiing cycling soon & i guess we should just have fun & see what nature does, but i can't piut my foot in it by wanting it too soon, which is me sometimes if i get the vibe:( . We talked of what we like in partners & she said she likes a naughty but good guy & that lead to the flirtatatiousness. She made some innuendo that i didn't expect that was sexualy orientated & i thought it was maybe a "lets step it up in our talk" thing. But we didn't. Time & nature i guess as Ccilius says! cg
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