Guest Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 Okay, I'm not sure where to begin, but here goes. I think I already know the answer to my question, I guess I just need the extra reassurance. I live with four people, and two of them are dating. I used to have a crush on the guy before I moved in with them (we knew each other through mutual friends), and before he started dating the other person (whom I did not know). I think he may have had feelings for me as well, but nothing ever really came of it. So, I got over it. Until one day, me and the guy were chatting about relationships in general (and we had a 'moment'), and ever since then, I feel like he's maybe developed feelings for me. He's done some things to suggest to me that he is interested, but I just waved them off (becuase he was still dating the other person). Now that I have kind of sent signals to suggest that I am not interested, I am beginning to develop feelings for him again. I hate to say this, but I really think that this guy and the person he's dating do not have any chemistry, but I guess that's not really for me to say. I don't think he's that interested in her, yet he continues to be with her. I think what I am struggling here with is the fact that he was (is?) interested in me, yet he continued to maintain a relationship with this other person? If he was really interested, I think he would have broken it off with this person in the first place, because otherwise this suggests to me that he still has feelings for this other person (or is it because he doesn't want to hurt her feelings, or because he's insecure and doesn't want to end this relationship with the other person until he's got someone else in the works?) I guess I'm just a little frustrated as to why someone would do this. And it really bites because I ignored my feelings for him for a while, and essentially got over him, and then he has to go and let me know that he might have feelings for me. The worse part is I get nervous when I am around him now, I get excited when I see him, and I love being in his company. I know I should just get over it, but it's hard! I can't help but think to myself 'great, now I have to get over him yet again'. I know what I should do (which is to do nothing and get over it) but I think I need that extra push. I hope this makes sense, and I appreciate anyone's input.
JadeStar Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 Best thing to do is leave it alone. He is with someone else. "If he were really interested, I think he would have broken it off with her in the first place." No always. Could be hes one of these people that wants their cake and eat it too. He may feel he can date her, and flirt or be with you as well. I wouldn't even acknowledge anything he may do/say. Find someone who is not involved with another. Jade
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