SmoochieFace Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 then you must not have much going for you....true players have much to offer a woman....thats how they get away with it, they are in demand. Another ridiculous assumption based on... what, Alpha??? Well, one thing I have *going for me* is emotional and intellectual maturity... oh, and security with myself and not being afraid to get close to someone and allowing someone to get close to me. Those things kinda help, ya know? Being an insecure unhappy guy who is also afraid of getting close to a woman - except for sex, of course - is not a recipe for attracting mature, secure, and loving women. Oh, you'll get women, all right but not the *good* ones. You'll get all the ones with tonnes of baggage, issues, insecurities, blah blah blah. Now... put me back in my Number One slot, please.
electric_sheep Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 I can imagine that playing such a woman could turn into a dangerous game indeed. I'm sure it's come back to haunt more than one "player".
witabix Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 then you must not have much going for you....true players have much to offer a woman....thats how they get away with it, they are in demand. The very word "player", gives some indication of what they are. Alpha, what do they get away with? I have been called a rogue, I have been called cheeky, always said with a smile, but never a player. I get away with asking if I can call her, and when she offers her number, tell her I already have it. (In the days when home phones bore the number on the dial), "You are cheeky, aren't you?". I don't know if I am in demand, but my single life has been in short bursts, I have never been alone for a long time, I ain't no player, and I don't have any trouble getting with women. (One at a time only!)
cygny Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 because if you don't keep on "playing" them then they get bored and split....its all about what happened during the initial attraction phase. If she is a great woman and got involved with a player and he eventually becaomes a non-player then she'll lose interest. Its not unlike if a man marries a skinny woman and she then gains 100 lbs. this just makes me laugh, because it is EXACTLY what i said. the player is all salesmanship, he doesn't have anything "under the hood" to keep her interested on a deeper level. thanks alpha honey, we agree for the 2nd time now! lol
SmoochieFace Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 this just makes me laugh, because it is EXACTLY what i said. the player is all salesmanship, he doesn't have anything "under the hood" to keep her interested on a deeper level. thanks alpha honey, we agree for the 2nd time now! lol Yeah, well, you're probably still *Number Three* though.
alphamale Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 The very word "player", gives some indication of what they are. Alpha, what do they get away with? well, for starters they get to have sex with a lot of attractive women. something most men would enjoy I have never been alone for a long time, I ain't no player, and I don't have any trouble getting with women. I would put myself in the same category....
whichwayisup Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 Why "play" a great woman? 1)Cuz he can, especially if the woman allows it. 2)He probably knows he doesn't have what it takes to substain and maintain a real relationship. 3)He's a committment phobe.
whichwayisup Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 then you must not have much going for you....true players have much to offer a woman....thats how they get away with it, they are in demand. But only for short term. The more time that goes by, his "plays and tricks" get less and less...And boring.
SmoochieFace Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 1)Cuz he can, especially if the woman allows it. Ah, interesting... So perhaps, it is quite fair to ask the next obvious question: why would women allow themselves to be *played*? I've come up with a few reasons - low self-esteem, lack of maturity, and lack of real-life experience. What do others think?
whichwayisup Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 Ah, interesting... So perhaps, it is quite fair to ask the next obvious question: why would women allow themselves to be *played*? I've come up with a few reasons - low self-esteem, lack of maturity, and lack of real-life experience. What do others think? OR just alot of sexual passion. Allowing that to take over CAN cloud judgement... Now, if she sticks around for too long, then yes, she may have insecurities and low self esteem.
alphamale Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 OR just alot of sexual passion. what about the attractive gold-digger? she's lookin' for money. the man with money knows this and takes advantage of it. after he gets bored he moves on to the next gold-digger. and let me remind you that most attractive females over 30 are looking for money. so there is no short supply
whichwayisup Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 Well then, wouldn't she kinda be a player too? If a woman goes after a man "'just" for money, that isn't right either. Kind of those two wrongs don't make a right here... Doesn't mean that she is a smart or a stupid golddigger. Just like the guys. There are SMART players and STUPID players.
SmoochieFace Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 Well then, wouldn't she kinda be a player too? If a woman goes after a man "'just" for money, that isn't right either. Kind of those two wrongs don't make a right here... Doesn't mean that she is a smart or a stupid golddigger. Just like the guys. There are SMART players and STUPID players. They are just playing each other... wow, such a healthy relationship indeed.
whichwayisup Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 They are just playing each other... wow, such a healthy relationship indeed. Exactly! It's retarded. But, if both know wtf they're doing, then who cares. I assume then it would be just for an experience and a fun time ... Nothing more, nothing less. And really, I doubt it is a 'relationship.' Doubt too that each bring eachother home to meet family/friends and cook-outs!
cygny Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 Ah, interesting... So perhaps, it is quite fair to ask the next obvious question: why would women allow themselves to be *played*? I've come up with a few reasons - low self-esteem, lack of maturity, and lack of real-life experience. What do others think? you are missing the point. the word "played" means to be tricked. a player is a con man. he has an ungenuine "front" that fools women. it doesn't take low self-esteem to get tricked. not even naivety, although that certainly makes a woman more vulnerable. all it takes is someone who is deceitful and good at it. can you talk about a woman who 'allows' herself to be tricked? only if too many signs etc were there. but then she is not really 'played', she walks into something she 'knows' is not real.
whichwayisup Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 Question is... DOES the player ever feel remorse? Is the player just a liar, or just very selfish, or even a narcissist?
cygny Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 Question is... DOES the player ever feel remorse? Is the player just a liar, or just very selfish, or even a narcissist? the players i know feel absolutely no remorse, it is a big boost to their ego to put another notch on their belt. they mock the women they have hurt and humiliated. they feel powerful and superior. "Master of the Universe" is what they call themselves.
alphamale Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 DOES the player ever feel remorse? I dont' believe so....does a shark feel remorse when it has a meal?
Author Raven1845 Posted February 14, 2006 Author Posted February 14, 2006 you are missing the point. the word "played" means to be tricked. a player is a con man. he has an ungenuine "front" that fools women. it doesn't take low self-esteem to get tricked. not even naivety, although that certainly makes a woman more vulnerable. all it takes is someone who is deceitful and good at it. can you talk about a woman who 'allows' herself to be tricked? only if too many signs etc were there. but then she is not really 'played', she walks into something she 'knows' is not real. Absolutely, Cygny! I'm pretty confident, and I'm not naive, either, but still got tricked. He was VERY good at what he did. I never saw it coming.
Author Raven1845 Posted February 14, 2006 Author Posted February 14, 2006 Question is... DOES the player ever feel remorse? Is the player just a liar, or just very selfish, or even a narcissist? Mine was a narcississt. I did, though, have to tell him what that meant, but once I did, he agreed and was actually proud of it. (creep).
cygny Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 Absolutely, Cygny! I'm pretty confident, and I'm not naive, either, but still got tricked. He was VERY good at what he did. I never saw it coming. yeah! and unless a woman has invested several hours in looking at those websites, she is NOT going to know which signs to be looking for, in the first place. They are not obvious. It's mind-control, closest thing to drugging a woman, as another poster said.
cygny Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 Mine was a narcississt. I did, though, have to tell him what that meant, but once I did, he agreed and was actually proud of it. (creep). haha i love that you had to tell him what he 'was' hilarious, hahahahahaha
Author Raven1845 Posted February 14, 2006 Author Posted February 14, 2006 yeah! and unless a woman has invested several hours in looking at those websites, she is NOT going to know which signs to be looking for, in the first place. They are not obvious. It's mind-control, closest thing to drugging a woman, as another poster said. I'll be checking those sites out from now on, that's for sure!
alphamale Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 I'm pretty confident, and I'm not naive, either, but still got tricked. He was VERY good at what he did. I never saw it coming. my little brother (37 y/o) is a true player. he is very good looking and a doctor also. he uses women and spits them out and they come running back for more abuse. it is quite funny actually. he has used female attorneys, female MBAs, etc. blah blah. sometimes the smartest women are the stupidest.
Author Raven1845 Posted February 14, 2006 Author Posted February 14, 2006 haha i love that you had to tell him what he 'was' hilarious, hahahahahaha Yeah, him are a smart one. haha (But then again, he tricked me and broke my heart, , so I shouldn't gloat about it too much).
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