glovoriak Posted February 13, 2006 Posted February 13, 2006 My mid aged significant other met a girl when he was on a trip.He told me it was nothing,but then he started talking about her all the time.This was months ago, and he still talkes about her as if she was family.She calls the house occasionally,and has even discussed plans of "get togethers"(all inocent of course).Although nothing has come of any of this'I'm convinced that communications are going on behind my back. Some things don't add up,like all the phone bills,downloads,texting,notifications at odd times,and all of it downplayed and minimized. I know what he's like when he's dreaming of her,he gets that glazed look on his face'or he can turn angry and nasty about minor things.Also when she calls or we see her, his voice rises about 10 decibels. Even this is bearable if he wouldn't lie or deceive me.He is/was so hooked on this girl that he even searched for her phone #,address,and is still looking for her e-mail address.He knew all her family members,where she lived,and printed out material that he lied to my face about.I am only beginning to find evidence of other things he is doing behind my back.She goes to school with my son so this makes it tough every time we go to visit.I can't say how hurt I am,and even thinking about my alternatives.Am I being paranoid and overly imaginative or should I just drop it and go on?
JadeStar Posted February 13, 2006 Posted February 13, 2006 She goes to school with your son? How old is the girl? Sounds like something fishy to me no doubt. Can't say that theres anything goign on psyically for sure, but he is either involved emotionally or theres a strong infatuation there. You could come out and ask him why he is talking about her/wonderting about her etc, but you're likely to get a response if at all, thats something along the lines of, "its nothing, or you're inagaining things" etc. Sounds like you have some proof of things though. Has to be your call wheather you say anything or not. Jade
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