leopardprint Posted February 13, 2006 Posted February 13, 2006 Ok so I've been searching and reading A LOT these past weeks and had a question. I've mainly been surfing the LDR and Break Up forums since that's what's been on my agenda as of late. (I hope this is the right place to post this; I wasn't sure if I should put this in the Dating or Beak Up forums... but considering I see things end over this more then work out, I figure this might be the best place. If a mod thinks it's better else where, please, place it wherever is best. ) The one thing I notice is so many things end over what people describe as "minor" fights or arguments. Now, I could assume I know what "minor" actually means, but I'm sure everyone has a different definition, and mine could be completely wrong. I feel like my relationship recently ended over "minor" fights that meant nothing to me - I mean, I can't even remember how they started or what they were about, let alone, that I even had one - but for my partner, they meant much more and he said they hurt him very much. So I guess my question(s) is... what exactly IS a "minor" fight?why do we have so many when we obviously love the person we're with?are they normal in any relationship (for me, specifically, an LDR) or not?are they really a sign to end things? Thank you all for your advice and point of views.
clynn Posted February 13, 2006 Posted February 13, 2006 I think that people find themselves fighting over minor or small issues...when actually there are bigger issues ie: compatibility issues,... that are keeping them from getting along.
justagirliegirl Posted February 13, 2006 Posted February 13, 2006 What minor things were you fighting about? Not everyone fights all the time. The bf and I hardly ever fight. The ex and I fought all the time. I can't even call him up to discuss our son without him starting a fight, threatening me, etc.
bellaD Posted February 17, 2006 Posted February 17, 2006 My bf and I fight about the silliest things sometimes. And these silly fights build aup and turn into huge ones over time. Mostly b/c of him...hes and insecure, immature, stubborn, hothead....did i mention a big baby too. iTS impossible to have a fight and get thru to him. Hes constantly playing victim when I am the victim. Always turns things around to be me. When hes wrong he wont admit it. After a year- it finally getting to me. the tru colors didnt start coming out unitl 6months into it. We arw still in this fight as i speak. Theres no way for it to be solved unless he calls and apologizes- otherwise im dun!! i dont deserve that crap. This made me think...hmmm all those little fights we had everyday, maybe they were serious issues just waiting to show its face.
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