MissMegsy283 Posted February 12, 2006 Posted February 12, 2006 I know that it's stupid because I'm a teenager, and I'm "supposed" to want to drink.. but I come from a childhood where my parents got so drunk they beat each other up and so on... And I have this fabulous boyfriend, but.. he likes to drink with his friends.. and that makes me so uncomfortable and nervous. I HAVE to learn to be ok with it, but I don't know how... please help!!!
Touche Posted February 13, 2006 Posted February 13, 2006 No, you DON'T have to be ok with it. And if he loved you or cared anything at all for you, he wouldn't care if you don't. Please be careful. You're more at risk for becoming an alcoholic because of your parents' history. It's nothing to take lightly. You seem like a smart girl. Too bad your boyfriend isn't. Also watch out in your life that you don't keep picking alcoholic boyfriends (not saying that he is.) But many children of alcoholics do just that. Good luck, dear and don't cave in to your boyfriend's pressure.
TeaCooler Posted February 13, 2006 Posted February 13, 2006 I HAVE to learn to be ok with it, but I don't know how... please help!!! no, you don't have to learn to be okay with it. you may have to if you choose to stay with this guy and he chooses to drink regardless...but you also have the option to find someone who better fits what you're looking for. it's not like an eye or hair color you don't prefer; this is something that truly affects your life and that way you want to live it. don't compromise your ideals for some kid making less-than-smart decisions.
Citizen Erased Posted February 13, 2006 Posted February 13, 2006 You dont have to learn to deal with it, but on the other hand he doesnt have to not have a drink or two because he shouldnt have to be the one who gives everything. Come to a compromise. Just explain to him that you dont wishto drink because of your family's past, and ask if he wouldnt get blind drunk when you are with him. Just communicate with him, explain your feelings and listen to him as well. It really isnt such a big deal, as long as he doesnt pressure you and you dont pressure him
Outcast Posted February 13, 2006 Posted February 13, 2006 and ask if he wouldnt get blind drunk when you are with him. Well, IMHO it would be preferable if he never got blind drunk. I see no earthly reason for drunkenness, myself.
Citizen Erased Posted February 13, 2006 Posted February 13, 2006 Well, IMHO it would be preferable if he never got blind drunk. I see no earthly reason for drunkenness, myself. I hated being a teen because of the whole binge drinking thing. I have seen someone drink themself silly and really may as well die and it makes me sick. Unfortunately, teens think it is acceptable because they are young so they wont be addicted, but sadly this is not the case.
justagirliegirl Posted February 13, 2006 Posted February 13, 2006 True, teens seem to think they are immortal. Nothing bad could ever happen to them. To the OP, it is up to you to decide on what your boundaries and values are as if you don't stand for something, you will fall for anything. If you don't like to drink, then don't do it and don't let anyone pressure you into it. You have seen with your own eyes the very real problems it causes.
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