Prettyinblack Posted February 12, 2006 Posted February 12, 2006 My boyfriend of 4 years cheated on me with another woman and I found out at Christmas, spoke with the "side dish", left him message to never call me again and have tried to move on. He works in a retail store and every time one of the people I know go into the store, he is chatting them up! Even if he doesn;t know them that well, he is being soooooooo nice. This week, someone was in that he and I both know as an acquaintence and he says"well, I guess it's definitely over, I haven't heard from her.....yep....guess it's over." I find it strange that he is talking to these people! Is there a meaning in this type of communication? I'm not sure. What do you guys think?
Citizen Erased Posted February 12, 2006 Posted February 12, 2006 He is trying to sound like the victim to all of your friends because it is a messy breakup and some people try to alienate their ex by befriendingtheir ex's friends, childish I know, but men and women alike all do it! Was there any closure? Have you told him the reason for the breakup? He may be thinking that you dont know and so trying to act the innocent. From what he is saying, I would have to guess that he is trying to gain your attention and yet trying to act the man at the same time. You have two choices: 1. Forget about him, if someone mentions him then just refuse to listen. OR 2. Contact him again, discuss your reasons for breaking up and then go your separate ways.
Curmudgeon Posted February 12, 2006 Posted February 12, 2006 like he's trying to minimize it and, as Coco said, infer that he's the victim he'd like to be seen as rather than the ass he is. Just be thankful he was only a boyfriend and not a husband. Those you can't get rid of so quickly and easily.
Rosalind Posted February 12, 2006 Posted February 12, 2006 Guilt And tell your friends that you're not the least bit interested in hearing about any kind of chat they had with him. He's history....
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