gordon_gc Posted February 12, 2006 Posted February 12, 2006 Hi, Just wondering if any of you have been in a relationship, got dumped or dumped (don't like to use these words but cannot find others) and got into a new relationship or heard your ex getting into a relationship. From this point, did the new relationship lasted ? For how long ? What were the reasons for breaking it off ? I'd love to hear from dumpers' experiences (we all have experiences) as I am actually the dumpee and would love to know if my ex and the newbf will last.
datboispiggs Posted February 12, 2006 Posted February 12, 2006 Hi, Just wondering if any of you have been in a relationship, got dumped or dumped (don't like to use these words but cannot find others) and got into a new relationship or heard your ex getting into a relationship. From this point, did the new relationship lasted ? For how long ? What were the reasons for breaking it off ? I'd love to hear from dumpers' experiences (we all have experiences) as I am actually the dumpee and would love to know if my ex and the newbf will last. I'll tell ya a story. I was with my now ex for 2 1/2 years. We broke up on numerous occassions for various reasons ( Lying, we'd seperate she'd be with a new guy in a week). Lets just say we were too immature to have a serious "in-love" relationship. The longest we went without talking was 1 1/2 months. She heard from friends of mine that I was flirting and seeing other chicks. As well I heard she was seeing this other guy days after we broke up. It didn't bother me 1 bit. I can get a lot of woman. That's not being cocky either. Then one day she shows up outta the blue walks in my house and asks me about it. So my instincts tell me that she wants me back. We try, but any little thing I did wrong turned into a huge argument. We end up breaking up again. She tells me this time that she wants nothing to do with me and that its over for good. I said ok don't think I'm pinning over you cause I got someone else I can call right now and she'll be over here. She hung up and thats the last I heard from her for a month now. My brother went to her work cause she used to live with us and her tax return info came to our house so he dropped it off. She asked about me, he told her I was with this other chick. So I'm sleeping Friday night when all of a sudden someone walks in and sits on my bed. I wake up and I'm like what the **** are you doing here? She's like I'll leave if you want. I said well what are you here for? She's like its just really good seeing you again. I said great. THen she proceeds to tell me all the things she's done for me. I was like "yeah I appreciate what you've done for me". She's like ok ( pretty much keeping me hooked) So we're laying there in my bed and in my head I'm thinking damn I really wanna stick this chick one more time. So we banged like monkeys ( Don't know if it was the smart thing to do) Then she asked if I did anything with this other chick. I said no. I can lie (why not do I really have an obligation to tell her?) So she's sitting there and I said whats your reason for coming over here? I said if you wanna tell me that you wanna spend the rest of your life with me then do it. She said "why can't you do it". I said I already have but you didn't take it serious so I said **** it I'll move on. Then she walks out of my room. I sit there
datboispiggs Posted February 12, 2006 Posted February 12, 2006 Hit the enter too fast... I sit there and she walks out the room comes back a second later and says" see this is what I'm talking about" I said" what cause I'm not chasing you anymore?". Then she says her goodbyes and leaves. Haven't heard from her since. So in my own eyes I think she came over to see if she could have it again, with a little "trying to ruin your new relationship" involved. But the other chick would careless. Cuase we're just bang buddies. So it's not like I'm losing out on anything. So thats my story. Oh yeah and she was seeing another guy through this ****. I don't let it bother me and you should do the same. Get a new woman, rebounds rarely last cause everytime they're with someone they're comparing them to you anyways. SHe can't let me go but doesnt want to be with me neither. She says she's moving away and I asked her if she wanted me to help her. SHe refuses. See I could do nice things for her but she don't let me, but during the relationship thats what she always wanted. So what do I do? Leave it alone and move on with my life. And you should do the same. If any ladies read this and can help me along with the other guy that would be great. What's my ex doing to me? What's her motives? Help us
Tangerina Posted February 13, 2006 Posted February 13, 2006 About a month after being dumped I met someone new, he was great but it was a bit soon for me.... two weeks later my ex wants me back but seeing this new guy opened my eyes to the fact that there is so much more out there and it gave me the little boost I needed to say no, which I knew was the right thing.... the new guy and I were great together and as I got over my ex we fell in love... still together and it has been 7.5 months and things are great.... I'm so much happier with him than with my ex who dumped me....
Mr.P Posted February 13, 2006 Posted February 13, 2006 My ex got a new bf 6 days after she dumped me at a party that I was at. That lasted 4 months, mainly because although I refused to speak to her on civil terms, I couldn't sit back and watch as new bf was being a complete bastard behind her back. I think I broke them up, for which I have no regrets lol
coasting Posted February 13, 2006 Posted February 13, 2006 My ex dumped me and moved in with the new gf on that day......Things between the two of them look good on the outside, but I hear through the grapevine that the grass is not greener on the otherside. Somehow I feel he needs to do the things that he missed out on as a teenager before he gets into another serious comitted relationship, which is exactly what the two of them are doing together. The way I look at it is if he ever decides to come back to what we had, it will take a lot of convincing on his part and a lot of forgiving on my part. But talk about rebound.....I do feel sorry for this girl, because Ihonestly believe the rebound relationships do not work...It is an act of desperation!
Butterflying Posted February 13, 2006 Posted February 13, 2006 I've never had a rebound relationship. But my Xs have. It usually takes 2-3 years between serious relationships for me to find another man I love. I broke up with one of my XBF's two years ago. He started dating a new girl the day after our breakup. I started dating someone 1 1/2 years after our break up. My XBF is still with his rebound after 2 years. My rebound took over a year to happen, and only lasted 7 months.
ChaseYng2005 Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 I was a rebound. My lover's ex is fighting a war with me to get his man back. Unfortunately for the ex, we care about each other a lot, and all of his attempts have only pushed us closer together.
cugo999 Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 I had not talked to my ex for two months, The last time i talked to her, she told me she has a bf and they are in love with each other, She had only known the guys for like a month. It took us 1 year to be in love with each other. We were together for more than 3 years. It has been 4 months since she told she has a bf. I have never talked to her since that time and i don't wanna know how they are doing. There is no way i can ever trust her again. I stilll love a lot and i am sure she stills loves me. The worst thing that turned me off is that when i called her she allowed me to talk to the dude. That was it for me. I cannot see any reason why i would want to take her back. I have to start a new. It is not easy though, but i have to. Thats me.
Teag Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 My ex & I were together for close to 2 years on & off. We were extremely happy for the first year then throughout the second year we kept breaking up. (him breaking up w/ me) but we would only break up for a few days or so. I moved in w/ him & an old friend started staying w/ us who introduced us to some other people. Well my ex decided he wanted to start staying out all night & doing whatever. I started going over to the new friends house & one of the guys who lived there started flirting w/ me. We hit it off really well. Needless to say I brok up w/ my ex & moved back in w/ my mom.(I was only 18) & me & the new guy started dating the day I moved out. Needless to say 5 1/2 years later we're still together. We've been married almost 4 years & have a beautiful 3yr old & one on the way. Sometimes I feel like we got together too young & too soon b/c we've had it rough & still have it rough sometimes. But so far its worked. So sometimes it works & sometimes it doesn't.
theclash Posted February 16, 2006 Posted February 16, 2006 when my relationship with my ex ended a year ago, I met a guy on the train days later. I was absolutely devastated, so hurt, that I just had the confidence to ask for his number after we were chatting on the train. Was this a rebound? Yes of course it was. He met me round my local pub that night.....However my parents and our friends were not impressed. They saw his ring, but he told me it wasn't a wedding ring We went out a few times, he started kissing me and inviting me back to his place, but I kept saying no to his place. I had a feeling he was cheating on a gf/wife cos a)the ring and b) while he was walking me home holding my hand, his phone rang, and he said to the person on the other end "I'm waiting for a taxi, it will be 25 mins" He said it was his friend, but i could hear a womans voice on the end. The lying barsteward. When I started to get suspicious I tried to avoid going out with him. it worked for 2 months till..... It turned out he was married. His wife saw texts from me on his phone, rang me up and had a huge go at me threatning to kill me, the bitch!
Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted February 18, 2006 Posted February 18, 2006 yes..my ex got into another realionship after we broke up (our break up was caused by his friends....loong story but not gonna go there)...well they lasted about almost 8 months.they broke up because of her attitude..she didnt treat him well. so then i was there to talk about it and he admit it that i treated him different and i never did anything to make him mad or anything and so on...so after that we would talk alot every day till 12:00 am sometimes after that. just about us and other stuff also... well we ended up meeting alot and we had sumthing but i never knew what it was..it was like we were bf and gf but not really we just seemed like we were like friends with benefits...he called me baby but i didnt ..i can be very negative and negative ppl see things logically and you know we dont live the moment so i knew it was going to end soon so why even get used to call him my baby when he wasnt....so then i told him i didnt want to be friends with benefits no longer because it was messing with my feelings and making me think we were gonna be toguether again when it wasnt going to happen(again i can be negative) so that lasted about to three months now after that i havent seen him since december 2004....i talk to him less and less every day....now i dont know whats going to happen.....i wish i could have lived the moment and not think of anything else..i guess being negative doesnt let me be 100% happy, i had a second chance and i blew it when ive been wishing for that second chance and now i lost it... so thats what happened...
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